derrycynthia Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Hi, I am new here and need some advice. My relationship of thirteen years ended the end of June when I moved out of the house with our two boys. My ex, who is 42, was acting strange since January, when a mechanic he new died of a heart attack, he was 35. He siad he wanted to be happy before he died and that we just didn't work. He called an old girlfriend, told me, and could not understand why I was upset. Well anyway I didn't fight, I moved out and left everything behind except clothing and me and thy boys moved into an apartment. Oh, and of course we did have sex before I left, he initiated. He doesn't want to go through the courts for child support and I gave him a deal of $50/week. I have not seen a dime. I pretty much have to force the boys to call him during the week. When he takes the boys on the weekends he calls me to vent, he has little patience. I am being as nice as I can be, I still am holding on to the idea that this is temporary. Yesterday he was suppose to take the youngest to the movies, he called to say he was busy and would pick him up later. The movie was at 7:15 p.m. I offered to bring my son to the theater and he would meet him there, I even bought the tickets so they wouldn't have to wait in line...he showed up at 7:10 p.m. gave me a dirty look and mumbled thanks. My big questions are...I have done everything to acommodate him and he is angry with me, when he looks at me it is like he looks right through me, why? I have told him how I feel about things and asked him how he feels, he said no good could come from him telling me how he feels...what does that mean? I am sad, lonely and confused...i have lost my best friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Samson Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 IMHO, It always seems a little wierd that the person that "wants to be happy before they die" isn't the one that moves out. If they're so unhappy, then shouldn't they leave? Yes. So I'm guessing the call to old flame pissed you off and made you more unhappy than your husband's unhappiness in facing his own mortality. Move back (with or without "permission"). Then if you just have to, get a lawyer so you will be entitled to whatever child support and spousal support the law allows. Link to post Share on other sites
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