looking for carl jung need inspirational advice!

[searching for carl jung (again)]

carl, i hope you find your way to this web site once again as i really need an understand "soul" to help me sort out this problem.

 

ya see i've been with this guy for a couple years now and i have this horrible jealousy problem. i have been trying to help myself with inner child work and individuation work to over come with horrible problem i have been inflicted with.

 

today i seen the counselor about this, she thinks it is more personality then delusional, and that meds probably wont help but she wants me to take celexa for some obsessive thinking problems i have.

 

well my main gripe is i have this tendency to drill my boyfriend and others to death about their where-a-bouts, doings, comings, and goings, etc. as i have posted earlier and you may remember.

 

well it's been two days now since i've asked him only one question and that was why did your brother stop by? the problem is i have this habit of checking his voice mail as you may remember about the queen of the v.a. loans and i have them in my head having an affair.

 

so today i monitored his message without his knowledge but i never asked him one single question. yes, i'm filled with guilt and shame and i never do it as much as i did today, i rarely check his voice mail but since that thing with her and not asking him any questions it seemed like the only outlet i had.

 

i refuse to let myself do that anymore. i never knew how painful "growth" could be. i've had to sit with myself and ask myself "why"? why are you doing this, and i get no answers from me.

 

i feel like i'm detaching myself from him and that i could easily slip away from him without this delusional emotional attachment of asking of questions. afterall what else is there?

 

sick huh? this is so hard and so scary and so frustrating. it is going to take along time to get this right. i even went to bed before he came home last night so i didn't have to ask him about his drinking at the football game that night.

 

i know this is long and i'm so sorry, i have so much on my mind and yes i'm going back for round two of counseling next week, but i feel so ashamed of myself for what i did today and can i lose him from acting too distant? i can't seem to find a medium?

[Carl Gustav Jung]

Well, you aren't going to like what I'm about to say and I seriously doubt you will ever again invoke my name.

 

You are seriously preoccupied with your stuff, to the point of pathology. It is almost narcisistic. You are pathetically obsessed with this problem and you need to drop it, lady. There is so much more to life than going through this.

 

You have the power to drop it instantly. You have control over your behavior. For some reason, in the past this served you well. But it is no longer useful in your life. Stay out of people's business and get your thoughts and energies focused on more constructive uses of your time.

 

Being overcome by your personal problems is the surest way to prolong them. This is not what nature intended for you. You were given a free will. You do not have a brain chemistry problem. Take the focus off of yourself and put it onto something else, like finding happiness in life.

 

I do not mean all this to offend you, but you have unceasingly addressed this same subject here. That is, of course, your priviledge. But by doing so, you show a highly abnormal focus on yourself and your behavior which you have carried on for many years. Change your entire life today, find new challenges, set goals that will enrich your life with new and bold experiences. Go back to school, read more, walk more, smile more, and worry less about what others are doing...think more about the direction you are going.

 

Today is the day you must move on, no matter how uncomfortable it may be, drop this unhealthy addiction to drill people about their personal business...join a twelve step program if you feel you are not in control...and start being happy.

 

You are the only thing that stands in the way of your happiness.

 

Remember, brilliant people are curious about ideas, average people are curious about events, and the rest just seem curious about other people. Where do you want to be here?

 

Sorry, I have to run now. We're all invited to examine some new celestial retirement plans.

[jennie]

well carl i'm not upset about what you said, i think you speak the trust and maybe that is what i needed to hear. i have been thinking about school (computers) and i think now would be a good time to invoke that idea.

 

i will go down next week though as this week i'm very busy at work. thank you for the ideas, i think that will help and i think you are right. i don't know why and or how i got into this predictiment but it is time to get out of it NOW!

 

thank you again! i will let you now forever R.I.P.

 

I PROMISE!............THANK YOU.........JENNIE

Well, you aren't going to like what I'm about to say and I seriously doubt you will ever again invoke my name. You are seriously preoccupied with your stuff, to the point of pathology. It is almost narcisistic. You are pathetically obsessed with this problem and you need to drop it, lady. There is so much more to life than going through this. You have the power to drop it instantly. You have control over your behavior. For some reason, in the past this served you well. But it is no longer useful in your life. Stay out of people's business and get your thoughts and energies focused on more constructive uses of your time. Being overcome by your personal problems is the surest way to prolong them. This is not what nature intended for you. You were given a free will. You do not have a brain chemistry problem. Take the focus off of yourself and put it onto something else, like finding happiness in life.

 

I do not mean all this to offend you, but you have unceasingly addressed this same subject here. That is, of course, your priviledge. But by doing so, you show a highly abnormal focus on yourself and your behavior which you have carried on for many years. Change your entire life today, find new challenges, set goals that will enrich your life with new and bold experiences. Go back to school, read more, walk more, smile more, and worry less about what others are doing...think more about the direction you are going. Today is the day you must move on, no matter how uncomfortable it may be, drop this unhealthy addiction to drill people about their personal business...join a twelve step program if you feel you are not in control...and start being happy.

 

You are the only thing that stands in the way of your happiness. Remember, brilliant people are curious about ideas, average people are curious about events, and the rest just seem curious about other people. Where do you want to be here? Sorry, I have to run now. We're all invited to examine some new celestial retirement plans.