patronusglow Posted December 23, 2012 Share Posted December 23, 2012 So here's where I'm at. MM confessed to me last weekend that he had feelings for me other than friendship, and I said the same. We had a talk and decided that a relationship between us was unrealistic, he ought to stay married and we probably shouldn't have any further contact (apart from work stuff). We agreed he shouldn't tell his wife. Neither of us took all of this well, but him in particular. NC was broken a few days after it started. He went to a psychologist and ended up confessing everything to his wife. They are about to separate now. He told his two sons today. After Xmas, he is moving into a hotel for awhile. This is an absolute mess. How did everyone else on here manage to deal with things post Dday?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author patronusglow Posted December 23, 2012 Author Share Posted December 23, 2012 Please don't be a fool. This is all part of the grooming process we discussed in your last thread. He wants to get you in bed. You were warned that he sounded like a sociopath remember? Go research the disorder and then it will all become clear. Did you wind up going to the Christmas party? Cheers Alice, I know what a sociopath is, and he definitely isn't one. I ignored that warning last time because it was ridiculous. Yes, I went to the Christmas party. No, nothing happened. Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted December 23, 2012 Share Posted December 23, 2012 Is this the type of man you want to be with? I thought him taking you to meet his wife was really creepy behavior, so it makes sense they are separated. His behavior with the guitar, telling you about a hotel room, his texts, all sound like he has a few screws loose. I don't know if he was always like this, but from what you describe, I would not want to be married or involved with a man like this. He probably has several years of work to do on himself if he wants to turn into a mature, responsible, caring man. So what is it you want? If you want to see him through a separation and divorce (which will likely happen unless he smartens up quickly) it will be a bumpy ride and then you will likely feel guilt to stay with him since he seems to have made his separation all about you. My advice would be to run and get out before you feel stuck with this man. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
promises Posted December 23, 2012 Share Posted December 23, 2012 :laugh: I didn't even put THAT piece together. What better way to get her to go up to his room. Then of course his wife will threaten to kill herself and take all of his business if he divorces her and take the kids away too . . . and he'll have to go back home. Poor guy. I don't mean to laugh at someone else's situation but HAHAHAHAHAAAA!!! So f####ing true. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted December 23, 2012 Share Posted December 23, 2012 So here's where I'm at. MM confessed to me last weekend that he had feelings for me other than friendship, and I said the same. We had a talk and decided that a relationship between us was unrealistic, he ought to stay married and we probably shouldn't have any further contact (apart from work stuff). We agreed he shouldn't tell his wife. Neither of us took all of this well, but him in particular. NC was broken a few days after it started. He went to a psychologist and ended up confessing everything to his wife. They are about to separate now. He told his two sons today. After Xmas, he is moving into a hotel for awhile. This is an absolute mess. How did everyone else on here manage to deal with things post Dday?? Don't do anything until he shows you the signed divorce papers. Link to post Share on other sites
promises Posted December 23, 2012 Share Posted December 23, 2012 hi- just want to say that I understand your confusion. Here is the bottom line. If he can't end something before starting something new, he isn't really concerned with either of your feelings. And, at the end of the day. He will go home. If he really wanted out of his marriage, he would be out. Not in a hotel. Even the best sex and the sweetest of girls isn't going to keep him in that hotel and then signing divorce papers. This isn't about you. Remember that. It's about a man who is going to hurt you. If you let him. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted December 23, 2012 Share Posted December 23, 2012 This guy will print "divorce papers" off the internet and the very young and naive OP will likely buy it. Yikes! Didn't even think of that. RUN OP RUN!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author patronusglow Posted December 24, 2012 Author Share Posted December 24, 2012 Lol, wow. Ok I'm out! Link to post Share on other sites
18Years2Late Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 This guy will print "divorce papers" off the internet and the very young and naive OP will likely buy it. Hey a new business venture!...I'll sell "official" looking divorce papers to MM...I can run an add right here on LS...lol... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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