my jealousy is ruining my relationship......

[confused_always]

I have know this guy for 9 years and have been strictly friends but totally attracted to eachother. We finally decided to give it a chance and things were perfect for the first few months but now his past seems to be coming into play in my mind. He has a very "social"past. which I had no problem with until I becme a part of that part of his life. Not the past part but the romantic part.

 

I know in my heart he doesnt want anyone else just buy the stuff he says, the way he acts in public, the fact we are always together and just simply that I know his heart. ALL OF THAT doesnt seem to stop this raging jealousy I have about any female. Why is that? I am wrecking this relationship and I dont want that to happen. I truly believe that he is genuine I just cant stop this stupid thought in my head. Is it low selfesteem on my part? HELP ME!

[overseas2004]

`You need to elaborate a little if you want us to answer. From what I get from your post, your current boyfriend was a manwhore before you met him and he had a lot of women. Maybe even cheated on gf's in the past. Now you are afraid that he will do the same to you... Am I right?

 

Well be very afraid. People tend to have a hard time breaking old patterns. But since you are already in this one you might as well see it out to the end. You cant really break up with him unless he does cheat on you. And the only way you are going to be able to know that (when he does) is to actually calm yourself down and only cause problems when you see a rational indication of cheating. For now, enjoy the relationship and have fun. What possible benefit do you have about worrying about nothing.

 

Regards

 

Overseas