lycans Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 (edited) We have always flirted but we have both been in another relationship since highschool. We ran into each other a few months ago and talked about the old days. She is still so beautiful and her words still intoxicate me. I realized I never told her how great she is and what a special place she will always have in my heart. We have both endured a hard relationship and have had to be the "adult" in our relationship. I nearly cried when she whispered I love you as we finally hugged good bye. She is so wholesome and family is everything to her so I know she broke all her rules. I dont want to be the other guy or anything but it is killing me to see her hurting and I know we both long for the love we could have shared. I have written a letter that I am sure I will never send but what can I do? Edited December 24, 2012 by lycans Spelling Link to post Share on other sites
RR1 Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 I'd go with the letter, what's the worst that can happen? The other person ignores it and you feel foolish for sending it. That's not really the end of the world. I've sent someone a letter before where i spelt out my feelings clearly for her, unfortunately it did get ignored but i knew at least i had tried. I hate living with the knowledge that i failed with something or someone because i never gave it my best shot, all those feelings of what if and but if only i had said this. Also with a letter you can sit and work on it so you can get everything down that you want to say, how many times have you worked out exactly what you are going to say to someone and then when you see them half of it just never comes out. At least with a letter you get it all said, it's still a good idea to meet up and talk but the letter is definitely a good start. I'd go for it, the alternative is to live with the regret. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Doesn't sound like a cute little crush to me; more like a long-term unrequited love. Danger Will Robinson, danger, specifically for the partners of the two principals here. Deep oceans of secrets of the past are one thing but this is in the here and now. If I were in your shoes, I'd get some IC and process it out. I faced a similar issue, with a few minor differences, also ca.1984, though mature adults back then, and it cooked up an expensive divorce in the here and now. Hope you find a different path. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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