shalisha42 Posted January 17, 2013 Share Posted January 17, 2013 some of you who've read my other posts know i've been with John for ten years now. he was my best friend my lover my confidant. we've been NC now since the weekend before thanksgiving when i told him to get his stuff out of my garage. a few times i bumped into him at work, he said to me "hey stranger" and i looked up and smiled, he tried to ask a question "so who stole your idea?" (in reference to a FB post i put up) and i smiled and nodded to my office, then i walked into the elevator and left him standing there. another time, i saw him with his co-worker, i said hi to his coworker but not to him, it was pretty obvious... i noticed him turning around to look at me, but i was busy at the moment and didn't look back at him... he texted me about some nonsense (something mundane "hey call me or call XXX he told me about this great deal about whatever") and i didn't reply. after a few minutes he texted me "can i call you?" and i still didn't reply.. he texted me a few more times after that "whatever, call XXX yourself then" and i STILL didn't reply even though it was killing me. finally he texted me "it's a good deal and saves alot of money" and then left it at that. but when i went on FB, i see him "liking" pictures and postings of how "grateful he is to have his family and friends in his life" and today (i don't know why i keep doing that to myself), he posted someone's story about how a donkey fell into a well and was feeling sorry for himself, crying etc etc, and the owner didn't know what to do so he decides that the donkey was too old to be saved and the well had to be covered anyway, starts throwing dirt to bury it, but the donkey steps aside, shakes off the dirt and steps up with every shove of dirt that is thrown on him, and eventually steps out of the well... (moral of the story is that life will throw dirt on you but you have to move up past it, and free your heart from hate etc etc) after seeing this, i'm so pissed, hurt and devastated once more. easy for him to say since he can pretend everything is fine and dandy! if his wife would have found out and left his ass, he would be singing a different tune! he has my in the palm of his hand and he knows it. i can't jeopardize my job to out him to his wife and he probably realizes this. what does him texting me mean? how do i get over this?!?!?!?! will the pain ever go away... May I ask where your other posts are? I'd like to read them because this post seems like you were having an affair with a married man, fell in love with him and then he went back to his wife. I'm not sure if that's the case. Please redirect me to your other posts? Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
shalisha42 Posted January 17, 2013 Share Posted January 17, 2013 i don't know you and i don't really have the strength to get into any kind of online squabble with you Mount. I'm devastated and i have no one to talk to, i know that no one really feels bad for me "since you already knew" and maybe i shouldn't think about it like you say "it already ended" if you don't really have anything consoling to say, please refrain from making any comments. i don't have really any practical point to talk about this, i don't know what i'm trying to achieve, maybe just hearing someone out just to make myself feel a little bit less hurt at this moment It's always best to socialize, even if you don't feel like it. Figure out the things you like to do. If you don't have hobbies or interests or friends, I suggest signing up to a social site called meetup.com. It's a place where people sign up based on there interests and hobbies. It's totally free and it's not a dating site. So for instance, I like bowling, so I signed up for their bowling social event. I also want to try archery, so I've signed up for that meetup. It's really important not to isolate! Make friends. Force yourself to go out and have fun. You can act your way into right thinking faster than you can think your way into right acting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted January 19, 2013 Share Posted January 19, 2013 OP - I must apologise for invading your thread! Am very sorry about that and won't happen again. Best wishes Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Don't feel any guilt AT ALL about acting to protect yourself. You owe this man nothing. Gifts are nice, but what makes them a gift is that they do not create obligation. If the giver thinks it does, it stops being a gift and becomes bait on a sharp, sharp hook. Don't bite. If you are scared to unfriend him, listen to your instinct, which is telling you this man is not good for you. I would strongly urge you to block him on FB and any other forums you know he's on. Block his texts or change your number. And don't spend another minute feeling bad about it, he does not intend anything good for you. Thanks for your reply which have just seen. Rather surprisingly I noticed earlier that HE has now blocked ME on FB. Most likely because I hadn't responded to him lately (must admit that felt a bit rude), including when he had messaged me earlier in the week when he asked if it was still ok to pick me up to the concert in April. Link to post Share on other sites
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