SharkTooth Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 Ex girlfriend had a piece of jewelry made for my Birthday/Christmas and wants me to come over tomorrow. I don't know what to do. I mean, what do you think this means? She broke up with me 7 weeks ago Thank you in advance Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 If she is an Ex and you know there is an expensive gift that could be offered, politely decline. You can be very kind and state that you know she put a lot of time and effort into the gift (do NOT mention the cost - that is irrelevant!), but indicate that it would be inappropriate to accept. Better yet, stay No Contact and decline her request to see you.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 If she is an Ex and you know there is an expensive gift that could be offered, politely decline. You can be very kind and state that you know she put a lot of time and effort into the gift (do NOT mention the cost - that is irrelevant!), but indicate that it would be inappropriate to accept. Better yet, stay No Contact and decline her request to see you.... Can't 'like' or echo this enough. "Thanks, but no thanks." Best response ever, and best given by declining opportunity to contact. Leave it be. It's her choice/mess - let her sort it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tori0001 Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Maybe she's having second thoughts, I always believe in giving someone the benefit of the doubt. I don't think there's any harm in seeing what she really wants. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Ex girlfriend had a piece of jewelry made for my Birthday/Christmas and wants me to come over tomorrow. I don't know what to do. I mean, what do you think this means? She broke up with me 7 weeks ago Thank you in advance I dont know your situation...did you break up with her or she broke up with you.... If you broke up with her.....you know what the gift means If she broke up with you.....I wish my ex bought me a 500 dollar gift haha Link to post Share on other sites
lovefiction Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 My ex did the same thing to me last year... Beautiful Tiffany diamond necklace... We'd been on a break for 3 months and he told me that he'd wanted to give it to me all those months... He gave it to me with the "promise" that he wanted it to become a ring... We were supposed to be moving in together after holidays... INSTEAD we are broken up and he is seeing someone new... And we only broke up three weeks ago!... Now he has a couple's picture on his FB page... So... no... I would NOT break NC for any gift... They need to do A LOT more than just offer a gift to fix everything... Next time around I know to keep NC unless they can prove that they have changed. Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Beautiful Tiffany diamond necklace... holy moly. I'd be selling that soon as and buying some tickets to Thailand if i were you! Link to post Share on other sites
shalisha42 Posted December 31, 2012 Share Posted December 31, 2012 Hi Sharktooth: Why did she break up with you? This expensive gift could mean she wants you back. I'd need to know more. Link to post Share on other sites
Tiera D Posted December 31, 2012 Share Posted December 31, 2012 i think its probably too expensive to be a breadcrumb especially its a girl who gave that, i might consider reopening contact,just take the necklace ! by her giving you something with that value you are in power now,you get to make the shots,personally i would take it at this point,but i would also like to know more TD Link to post Share on other sites
Author SharkTooth Posted December 31, 2012 Author Share Posted December 31, 2012 The reason for the breakup..."I just don't think we can grow as a family" is what she said. You see, she has an 8 year old son and I have a 14 year old son. My son came down for the summer and suddenly stayed forever (another story). At that time I thought our relationship would probably be over but to my surprise, she was extremely excited! My son who had just learned he was moving in with us, leaving all his friends, going in to a new school, and leaving everything he had known behind, was understandably in major shock. It was the best and worst time for him and me. I'm a good father and have always been there for him, but never "raised" him. He lived 1,000 miles away. I was the "Disney dad". Anyway, he came in to dad being in love and was happy for that but was very uncomfortable with my ex. She did everything in her power to make him feel comfortable but he was having a hard time with it. It wasn't that he was mean, he just didn't acknowledge her. She was very patient and I was trying my best to adjust to the whole thing. He continued to say how unhappy he was daily to me anyway. I knew this would pass but I had a hard time disciplining him because of what he was going through. I know that now but at the time, I thought she would understand. The final straw was when he went to school for the first day. She text him and said have a great day at school. He never replied. Then the killer. She told me that she was becoming uncomfortable coming home from work and that she was beginning to build a wall between her and my son. I had begun to talk to my son about how he was treating everyone, never telling him the truth about her. I thought that time would take care of everything but now I guess the wall was to big. I offered to move out and back in to my house and see how that would work and there was a spark of light. So I moved and we saw each other on weekends and I thought it was great and going well. This would give me and my son a chance to get to know each other and I would be able to be the real father with all the responsibilities. After 2 months, that was when she told me the news... On another note, my son has actually started texting her and according to her, being very sweet and kind hearted... Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted December 31, 2012 Share Posted December 31, 2012 And what about the gift? Did you see her? Link to post Share on other sites
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