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MissLY

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I was just curious. I've been seeing this guy for a couple months. He used to text me everyday at the beginning. Lately, he's been texting me every other day.

 

What are the reasons as to why most guys do this?

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MrCastle

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Uhh, the real question should be "why do some guys text every other day instead of every 3 days"

 

If you're texting a girl everyday and she's not your girlfriend or you haven't had sex yet, good luck getting laid my friend!

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Well assuming he was still interested, after the repetitive good mornings, good afternoons, and good nights, he would be more than tempted to ask you out on a date. If there is no action on his part to make confirmations to get you to go out with him and walk on a promenade, assume he's just trying to pass his own time by fishing around for attention.

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One side shouldn't always need to be the one to make first contact, and ya if you want to talk that day or time text first I don't see the big deal. Women want it both ways, i've had it where they ask why i'm not texting them everyday asking if i'm mad at them etc, then when I do make a point of texting daily they respond less and bascially act like i'm too clingy. I have no problem with a good morning/night daily text but at the same time there isn't always something to talk about or time to be in constant contact.

 

But I would find it odd if they are texting every other day all the time like a pattern.

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Because the average man doesn't feel the same need to be in contact all day every day like many women do.

 

See... this is something I would really like to understand better. I know it's true... but why? Whyyy? :( It's so annoying.

 

Don't you guys miss talking to someone you're into?

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See... this is something I would really like to understand better. I know it's true... but why? Whyyy? :( It's so annoying.

 

Don't you guys miss talking to someone you're into?

You wouldn't want the kind of guy who was into you as much as you are into them.

 

Besides you only put real effort into her when you are trying to get her but after that the effort is wasted.

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Yes I guess the second part can be said of someone who is not looking for a relationship.

 

Wow LP, I'm almost impressed. You can almost discuss things too? lol.

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See... this is something I would really like to understand better. I know it's true... but why? Whyyy? :( It's so annoying.

 

Don't you guys miss talking to someone you're into?

 

Yes I do. Most days it makes the day go by so much quicker texting back and forth a bit, plus sexting is so much fun. The thing that annoys me is when the women makes first contact less and less, eventually not at all. Then wonders why one day I don't make first contact and by evening we haven't talked, and think i'm mad at her. Like really why it is the man job all the time?

 

But ya if i'm dating someone, I would like at least a text daily to be in contact. I want to know how their day is, if it's good hear about it, if it's not good try and do something to make it better. Especially with texting it takes so little time.

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Yes I do. Most days it makes the day go by so much quicker texting back and forth a bit, plus sexting is so much fun. The thing that annoys me is when the women makes first contact less and less, eventually not at all. Then wonders why one day I don't make first contact and by evening we haven't talked, and think i'm mad at her. Like really why it is the man job all the time?

 

But ya if i'm dating someone, I would like at least a text daily to be in contact.

I don't text but I experience the same thing in real life. Women want you to initiate all conversations. They'll initiate almost none and then when you talk to them they can't even hold a conversation. You are pretty much talking to yourself but most guys don't notice since they are too self involved.

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I believe we don't feel that comfy initiating a lot of the contact in a relationship that hasn't been defined yet (specially after meeting someone from OLD for the first few times), when we don't know if the guy is really into us, or is a player and whatnot. Most of us are brain-wired to not be the pursuers as it feels a little degrading (At least I feel this way). I don't even know why but I feel I should not pursue a guy in the beginning. So yes, until things develop a bit, we do prefer that you initiate most contact. Not in a clingy way though. After I feel secure with a guy, I have no problem initiating contact as much as him. Ahhh why does it have to be so complicated.

 

And what is the guys' excuse for not texting daily? As it does take 2 sec. to at least say hi.

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I was just curious. I've been seeing this guy for a couple months. He used to text me everyday at the beginning. Lately, he's been texting me every other day.

 

What are the reasons as to why most guys do this?

 

My question would be - have you guys actually tried talking to each other?

You could bring that up in converstaion as a question.

 

Talking is under-rated, you should try it more.....

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My question would be - have you guys actually tried talking to each other?

You could bring that up in converstaion as a question.

 

Talking is under-rated, you should try it more.....

If only women just wanted to talk instead of use it as a weapon to gain an upper hand because how dare a man talk back to a woman. That's why for a man the best approach in an argument is to not talk at all.

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I think it depends on the person. I'm a girl and don't text every day or expect my boyfriends to do it, a couple of days without contact is perfectly fine with me. I don't need daily good mornings or I love yous to know how he feels about me.

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I don't text but I experience the same thing in real life. Women want you to initiate all conversations. They'll initiate almost none and then when you talk to them they can't even hold a conversation. You are pretty much talking to yourself but most guys don't notice since they are too self involved.

 

I notice.

When I start to feel like her entertainment I bail regardless of how hot she is & 9/10 these women are very HOT.

The other 1 time they are just hot. LOL!

 

Boring women really do turn me off. I'm getting older & can't sex more than a few hrs at a time so I need someone who isn't annoying or boring to be around when i'm clothed. :)

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No. The overwhelming majority of men prefer their communication to be functional.

 

This. takes all of one email, text per party involved or a 1 min. phone call for men to arrange something. Then we communicate face to face while we are engaging in said activities.

 

It's extremely rare for men to call eachother just to call. I've sat next to women in utter disbelief at their ability to talk to eachother on the phone for an eternity without actually talking about anything even remotely significant.

 

again, strong WTF here. I've had women I knew call me up when they had idle time to chat about absolutely nothing & would of kept me on the phone forever if I let them. I learned the hard way that is the express train into the friendzone.

 

Don't kid yourself, the only reason we text/call/skype daily is because we know you're going to be *****ing to your friends about how we don't love you if we neglect to get in touch every single day.

 

For an actual GF I am sleeping with, sadly yes.

However I'd never GF up a woman who didn't initiate texts or phone calls with me at least half the time.

 

If I meet someone new whether it's in real life or online the only time I pretty much communicate with them non-face-to-face is the initial phone convo to get to know them a little & set up the date then a verification call or text to make sure the date is on the day of the date.

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Even as a woman I prefer most of my texts to be functional... lol

 

Also another woman perspective (that most guys have probably already figured out) is that if a woman expects you to be contacting her all the time for whatever reason, she probably doesn't have a life outside of you. I have plenty of friends like that... glued to their phones, texting their boyfriends non-stop, yeesh. Get a hobby or something.

 

EDIT: The only semi-functional texts I sometimes send guys are asking them about something significant they did. Like, if the guy tells me he has a job interview on Monday, I might text him on Tuesday asking him how the interview went. *shrug* It's my way of showing I remember; dunno if the guys here think that's too annoying.

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Because you girls have made it seems that if a guy texts everyday' date=' he is needy or desperate.[/quote']

Only the girls who don't want a relationship make it seem this way.

 

I've never had a girl I was talking with, whether it worked out or she lost interest say, oh you text too much and you seem needy when you text me good morning or good night.

 

Just don't text someone every 20 minutes (unless its an ongoing conversation) and you'll be fine

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Even as a woman I prefer most of my texts to be functional... lol

 

Also another woman perspective (that most guys have probably already figured out) is that if a woman expects you to be contacting her all the time for whatever reason, she probably doesn't have a life outside of you. I have plenty of friends like that... glued to their phones, texting their boyfriends non-stop, yeesh. Get a hobby or something.

 

EDIT: The only semi-functional texts I sometimes send guys are asking them about something significant they did. Like, if the guy tells me he has a job interview on Monday, I might text him on Tuesday asking him how the interview went. *shrug* It's my way of showing I remember; dunno if the guys here think that's too annoying.

 

I completely agree with you. As a woman I have friends like this who want to call and chat, chat, chat. I avoid those friends. I have too many things to do other than sit around talking, texting all day. WTF! Why don't people find hobbies or something else to keep them busy. Some people are too darn co-dependent.

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