Balzac Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 Ouch on the roughing it. It's early in the process and whether she's sane now matters less than how sane she becomes after her lawyer explains the reality of "fairness law" to her. Over and over again her lawyer will spell out the financial reality. Keep in mind that the money clock stops on the day of filing. She's then operating on her own dime. While it's true her "dime" may be the half of the marital money pie, you are still capable of earning $. The issues with your kids can and will be worked out. You should be able to see them now, access to you, for the best interest of your kids is the deal. If your kids can see that you're ok and will still be meeting their needs, living them, talking with and seeing them, it's all they need. Divorce is no different than shutting down a joint business. There are rules, formulas and tax considerations. Trust that you are smart enough to develop several financial plans and that would include tax strategy, future for kids strategy and taking care to preserve your ability to generate income. The dog, oh the misery of losing the singular source of unconditional acceptance and love. Sorry for your misery in loss. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 I'm going to change my ways and handle this sbxw by getting a lawyer. I think it's been such a shock for me (living in hotel, miss my kids. Miss MY f,,, house and My dog). After 20plus years this sucks. Having trouble sleeping, eating, BUT, every day gets just a but better. If she was sane she would see the logic (she's not) of how large costs for lawyers are going to mess out kids up. Living in a hotel/motel can be expensive. Are you certain there's not a spare room for a bed in your house. The divorce/settlement procedure can be lengthy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caldespair Posted December 30, 2012 Author Share Posted December 30, 2012 My thinking on the hotel was, i did not want to leave the house,thinking she calm down in a day or so. Prob is she still a mean witch. And I usually am on Maui right now thrug new years, but the wicks with cancelled it, I go on the 2nd to see one of the most famus and regarded junk yard do lawyer. Other lawyers in my area are terrified of him, it fonna be a consult but he will give me the abc. I figured she started it, she's ****ed up, and I can't be unprotected. Last think, I've been holding back the deposit from my business (usually do it after 1st for tax reasons). So there is no money in family account. She e mails me, say some bitch stuff, the says we're are over drafting what r u fmna due abut it? Well sweetie...I'll see wht my lawyer says to do. Also have a large 1 bedroom apartment in th hills which will be great for my daughters and my dog -puppy lab Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted December 30, 2012 Share Posted December 30, 2012 Imo, it's disgusting that after putting $7500 on an attorney, she's now worried about over draft. You will probably be required to give her an allowance and pay for maintenance on the house, so you should move back into the home. It could be a while before house sells, and getting a decent price for it. Or move into the apartment if you own it and it's available. Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted December 30, 2012 Share Posted December 30, 2012 Joint account and divorce is an oxymoron. She would have been wise to open her own account and I'm certain she did. Writing the retainer check from a joint account was fine, replacing it with her individual check will also be fine. She now must choose what to spend her available funds on, calling you for overdraft protection is a ploy. Link to post Share on other sites
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