How come some husbands only reserve kinky sex for affairs or prostitutes?

[inspired by "Sex in the City" (last epis]

Did any of you see the last episode of SEX IN THE CITY where the brunette (I forget her name) who just got married to the guy who can't get it up, realizes that her husband is capable of having an orgasm only when he jacks off to sexy magazines?

 

So she decides to dress up in provocative lingere and tries to get him excited while he is reading a book in bed at night. He disapproves of the clothing she is wearing and she protests by saying she is a sexual woman. He answers by saying, "but you're my wife."

 

Then she starts to play with herself in front of him and he finally gets excited even though he initially protests.

 

How come there are so many married couples like this? I mean where the husband and wive's sex lives are so conservative that it becomes the standard norm. Does this just happen naturally after living with the same person for so many years? Is really good sex really only the best when it is illicit sex?

[Tony T]

How come there are so many married couples like this?

 

A lot of it has to do with the fact that sex is performed almost wholly for enjoyment prior to marriage and after becomes as much a conjugal duty as it does a moment to enjoy. For some, it even becomes a major enterprise as young couples work hard to get pregnant.

 

Does this just happen naturally after living with the same person for so many years?

 

Men, to a greater extent, and women as well are likely to be more excited with a sex partner they are not as familiar with. As the years go by, both may become a bit timid because of the possibility of unwanted impregnation which could mean major changes in lifestyle, greater financial obligations, constraints on time, etc.

 

Is really good sex really only the best when it is illicit sex?

 

Great sex takes place when the mind is in just the right mood, whether married, single or yet unborn. Go figure!

[Deejette]

Also, there is the madonna/whore thing going on. Especially once your wife becomes the mother of your children. She becomes the madonna and you don't want to do kinky things with the madonna. But you do want to be kinky with the little slut in the porno flick or whatever because she is a nasty little pig, unlike your good-girl wife.

 

I have notice in the Victoria's Secret Catalogue that there are two lines of clothes. One suitable for the wife (pyjamas, cuddly robes, buttoned-up styles) and one suitable for the mistress (sexy, provocative, naughty). Check it out next time and you will see what I mean.

How come there are so many married couples like this? A lot of it has to do with the fact that sex is performed almost wholly for enjoyment prior to marriage and after becomes as much a conjugal duty as it does a moment to enjoy. For some, it even becomes a major enterprise as young couples work hard to get pregnant. Does this just happen naturally after living with the same person for so many years? Men, to a greater extent, and women as well are likely to be more excited with a sex partner they are not as familiar with. As the years go by, both may become a bit timid because of the possibility of unwanted impregnation which could mean major changes in lifestyle, greater financial obligations, constraints on time, etc. Is really good sex really only the best when it is illicit sex? Great sex takes place when the mind is in just the right mood, whether married, single or yet unborn. Go figure!

[sparkle]

I just got the new victoria's secret catalog in the mail yesterday. You're exactly right; there's the "naughty" line and the "innocent" line of clothing

 

I have notice in the Victoria's Secret Catalogue that there are two lines of clothes. One suitable for the wife (pyjamas, cuddly robes, buttoned-up styles) and one suitable for the mistress (sexy, provocative, naughty). Check it out next time and you will see what I mean.