Justtiredofit Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 Ok, I did it. I told her I just wanted out of the marriage (after being wishy washy) and put the divorce agreement papers in the mailbox. Told my 20 yr old daughter to make sure she gets them. I felt liberated....felt better last night....better this morning....now feeling sad again. I'm so up and down. But I know that I must show total disinterest to gain the upper hand. But there's a chance she'll just sign, and turn it in. I'll be crushed but I HAVE TO GO ON no matter what. She NEVER gets on facebook, but has been since I left the house. For the past several months, she has had it in her head that I am flirting with other women on there, etc. So now she's getting on there, changing her status to separated (several days after I did it), put up a picture yesterday that she took last Christmas to lure me back to her. When I look at her FB, it's just trigger---trigger---trigger and it just kills me. I need to block her don't I? Please share your thoughts about how I should move forward from here. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 . I need to block her don't I? Yes. Please share your thoughts about how I should move forward from here. Read the No Contact Guide in my signature (link). Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 It sounds to me like you don't really want this divorce, or that you are not sure if you want it. You shouldn't have gone ahead with the divorce papers if you were still ambivalent about divorcing her. Once the divorce papers are sent, it pretty much torpedoes the relationship and any hope of reconciliation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Justtiredofit Posted December 27, 2012 Author Share Posted December 27, 2012 Kathy, you are right....under normal circumstances. She is bipolar. When she is on the antidepressants, she is one way. When she gets off of them, she's another way, acting single. It's crazy. I just can't handle it, even though I love her so much. It's a catch 22. The more I hang around and give her the thought that I want to work on it, the more I look like a spineless wussy and no woman can respect a spineless wussy. And when the respect is gone, the love goes too. The other part of me says "No, God says He hates divorce...be a man and stay there and FIGHT for your marriage!" I tried that and she told me our marriage has come to an end. I think it's just that I am the one receiving the rejection. I'm so divided. So to UNDIVIDE myself, I sent her the papers. I am "manning up" and saying "LET'S ROCK". This really sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
revitup Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 WOW!!!! I just saw the "BIPOLAR" thing.My STBXWW is the same thing with Borderline Personality Disorder thrown in as well. You certainly are in the same boat as I am in many ways.My STBXWW just will not take her medicine.Bipolar doesn't make you do all of this though,most of this is her choice! I don't know about yours,but my STBXW could charm anyone and was extremely sweet and caring......when she wanted to be. I am now out from under that spell.You soon will be as well,looks like you already are. Brother,You have a great New Year and just know that you aren't alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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