angelsword Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 My long term boyfriends family so hard to deal with. his brothers say mean things about me all the time and his mom is constantly butting her nose into our lives. She use to call him every day and boss him into doing things. He drops everything for them. They treat him like a doormat but god forbid i say anything about it. His mother bosses us into doing something we didn't feel comfortable with and it caused a problem. but none of the family ever is "wrong" or takes the blame. its allways my fault somehow and im the jerk. His brother had a drinking problem and i put my foot down about not wanting it around my house and everyone got mad at me. His mom points out how im "not part of the family" all the time. it enrages me I have to take there crap and never say a word about it. and he never says anything to them about there behavior. His mother is so bossy and controlling. ive delt with them by avoiding them. i make up excuses why i cant cme to family functions. there is NO reasoning with his mother because she is NEVER wrong and will not see it any other way but her own. Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Look up codependent. Link to post Share on other sites
Author angelsword Posted December 28, 2012 Author Share Posted December 28, 2012 yeah i know im dating a 29 year old mommys boy Link to post Share on other sites
TheZebra Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Sounds a lot like my ex. He's 27 now, but similar situation. When I last spoke to him, he told me he was still living at home because apparently his mother 'throws a fit' whenever he mentions the idea of moving out. A grown woman throwing a tantrum... wow. Makes me happy I'm not with him anymore. Here's the real kicker - if he moves out he'll want a place close by. Man am I happy that relationship failed! There's not much you can do, to be honest. With my ex I tried for YEARS to get him to see the light. Every time I thought I made progress, like if he stood up to his brother, or said no to his mom or something. But then he'd just take it out on me, as if I was evil. I knew he was a spineless being a week before we broke up. His mom had been yelling at him repeatedly while he tried to do a task at his house that she wouldn't do. Eventually he snapped and just yelled back, telling her he was doing his best and her yelling wasn't helping. He never cursed at her or anything, just snapped. Later that day, his dad calls just to talk and he immediately apologizes like a little baby about having yelled at his mom. Even after his dad showed he clearly didn't care (he's married to the monster), he kept apologizing. Grow a backbone! Link to post Share on other sites
Author angelsword Posted December 28, 2012 Author Share Posted December 28, 2012 thank god for me he dosn't live with her. but when i started dating again that was one of my "rules" was no guy living at home. She has stopped calling all the time thank god. but his mommy issues sometimes get in the way. like he dosnt like it when i boss him (or what he thinks is bossing) and he takes forver to make any decisions. sometimes i feel like he is taking out his mom problems on me. Link to post Share on other sites
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