mlpony Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 No, I'm not talking about BDSM - you pervs! ;-) I'm talking about NC discipline. I'm very good at it. If a guy stops calling, that's it. He won't hear from me either. I may text once to say hi, but if he doesn't get back to me, he won't hear from me again. Also I don't go to places where I know he'll be. I just disappear. It feels so bad sometimes, and sometimes it feels unnatural, but I know that if I contact someone who has rejected me, and they don't get back to me, it will be worse. I had a guy do everything but stalk me last year, and it made me never want to see him again. I don't want the guys I've been with to have this bad memory of me. But I wonder, is it healthy to be so good at not contacting, or is it cold and dispassionate? Is anyone else this way? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mlpony Posted December 31, 2012 Author Share Posted December 31, 2012 The thing that I forgot to mention earlier is the irony that, when I am being so disciplined and not contacting someone who is not interested in me, it always seems that another person who I am not interested in is not being so disciplined, and contacting me every day! Link to post Share on other sites
rys Posted January 4, 2013 Share Posted January 4, 2013 i'm very good at NC, too. for me, i'm guessing that it's a skill mastered with age and experience i had memorable experience though. i thought a guy was not into me, bec he didn't contact me in 2 weeks. i found out why - when he called me to say he had an accident. Link to post Share on other sites
ooglesnboogles Posted January 4, 2013 Share Posted January 4, 2013 I've gotten better at it as I've gotten older because it seems easier to not be so attached. Before, I'd just sit around thinking about what they might be doing, why they're not contacting me, why, why why. Now, I turn on the Gamecube and whoop some ass in NFL Street (2003!) or go build something. Link to post Share on other sites
allenpo123 Posted January 5, 2013 Share Posted January 5, 2013 Man I am NOT good at NC! I'm almost always the first one to text, even in a relationship, but maybe that's because the other person really doesn't speak that much. Distracting yourself when you want to text is a very good idea. Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 I'd say I'm pretty good at NC too. Though most of the time I have been the dumper. But I've been dumped a couple of times and it was always pretty easy to go full NC within a couple of hours after definite break up. As the dumper it's usually easier though I find that sometimes the loneliness can creep in and it becomes very tempting to call "someone". Link to post Share on other sites
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