Communication - lock down!!

[ringo]

Well, this weekend hubby and I took a road trip. When your locked in a vehicle for hours together, your bound to talk and really communicate. This was exactly what we needed. 6 hours of non-stop talking, just on the drive part of things. It was GREAT!

 

Today, H has already been conquering things on his "To do list" to better our relationship. Things he's been putting off for weeks now are finally getting done. AMAZING what a little communication can do for a relationship. I'm so proud of his efforts today and can only pray that he keeps up the work on his end.

 

Though he's not in the clear - he's proving with his ACTIONS that he wants us to work. This is all I've been asking for. We had a great day together, and it definitely has brought us closer together. I no longer have the feeling of fighting this battle alone. Wish we'd have done this weeks ago!!

[Moose]

That's great!!! But just remember, now that he's showing you he can act on making the relationship better, don't ride on his coat tail.

 

I'm not saying that you are, but I always try to remind people that it's not a matter of if he's doing his part or if your doing your part. It's a matter of putting in your 100% and him putting in his 100%.

 

Praise him as much as you can......consistency is what you really need to push for. It only takes 30 days to create a habit, and working on a marriage or a relationship should be a habitual action.

 

Good Luck!!!

[supermom]

I am so happy to hear that! I went kinda through the same situation - and once hubby and I talked, I started noticing almost right away how he changed little things for us.

 

When I noticed I said something - like "thanks for doing ...." and once I started praising him - he continued on.

 

Now we are more happier than we've been in a long time

 

Good luck