MertzMan Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Here's one....I feel kinda weird with this one, because to me its silly, but it is her feelings, so It isn't silly obviously. We've been married for 4 months....living together for two years before that, and every few months I hear about how homesick she is. The weird part is we live One (1) hour from her house (Last time I checked thats pretty god in a day and age where people move all over the country/world). What can I do to make her stop feeling homesick? Shes a small town girl....generations of her family lived in the same 10 by 10 street town, and never left. Think she'll get over this, or will she continuely tell me how sad and homesick she is?? Needless to say I left my town and job to be with her, meeting somewhere in the middle, and couldnt be happier. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Boy, this is an easy one!!!! Tell her to take the weekend and go visit.....you'll see her again on Monday. You may even want to go with her, or plan on visiting once a month. If she knows there is going to be a set date that she gets to go back it may put her more at ease. I'm glad that's the only problem you have..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author MertzMan Posted August 16, 2004 Author Share Posted August 16, 2004 I know what you're saying...we do visit...we're both family people, and we see her fmaily at least once a month. Still, she seems to think she's "missing out" on seeing her neices and nephew grow up...I keep telling her, her brothers dont see each other every day, and if we lived in town, we'd do the same things we do now....Work all week, come home, see each other, have dinner, watch tv, bed....get to the weekends. Not hang out with her family all the time. I dunno, i know this is a minimal problem, but its an annoyance that I dont have answers for. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Are there any plans for you two to have children of your own? That may get her mind off of her nephews and nieces, not that she won't see them at all.....but it sounds to me that she has that mothering instinct and she's wanting to nurture it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MertzMan Posted August 16, 2004 Author Share Posted August 16, 2004 Yes, we're talking about kids in probably two years, but she wants to start now. Wow, you hit that one on the head. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Thanks....well, maybe it's time?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MertzMan Posted August 16, 2004 Author Share Posted August 16, 2004 I dont think its time yet. We're not financially where we need to be (debt free, in a house). Two more years of us both working and we are there, ready to have kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Good idea..... Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 I'll tell you what I think, but before I do, I shall ask you a question: Did this happen before too or is it a bit more recent? Like let's say a few months recent ? I think that your new wife starts to realise - also it is as clear as the day light, that she is really breaking up with what used to be her lifestyle... Even if she did leave the same life she does now one year ago, not being married and living so close to home made her feel as if she actually still lived in her old town... it is silly, but it is very true... And now she realises that she is parting with it and she is sad... and she should be. A big part of her life is finally being left behind, you know? So IMHO just give her time to actually adjust to the change. Because I reckon at some point she'll get tired of looking back and will look forward... to her new life, with her new husband in her new town... sorry I don't have a better answer, but I think understanding msy put you at ease... if I am right, of course Link to post Share on other sites
Author MertzMan Posted August 16, 2004 Author Share Posted August 16, 2004 I do appreciate your thoughts. Its tough for me, only because Id rather be nowhere but living with my wife...Completely happy. And she says she is happy, I Believe her, but every few months this comes up. I think she does miss her old way of life, friends family, the ways things were. I think she also forgets most of her friends left that small town and live all over the country now. Change. Its fun! Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 She's letting it go... the part with her friends scattered around the country confirms this. It is hard for her and is making you sad. But accept this sadness as her own alone and not as a regret and believe her when she's saying she's happy with you! I am sure she is ! Sometimes one doesn't think their heart is big enough to have two cities in it ! Even if their are one hour away from eachother... Link to post Share on other sites
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