jackie 196 Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 I am 23 and have been dating my boyfriend (who is 24) for almost 6 years. I recently graduated from college and am uncertain about what I should do. I want to move in with my boyfriend next year, but he isn't sure if he wants to move in with me. I want to get married some day, not anytime soon, and he isn't sure if he wants to get married or have kids. I am starting to think about where I want to live next, but my boyfriend isn't sure if he wants to live anywhere but his hometown. I have been considering leaving him behind to pursue my career and graduate education, but am afraid I would be making the wrong decision. Our cuurent relationship is great, but I'm not sure about our future. Basically, I want to move in with him, but he feels like living together is just one step closer to marriage. I don't know what to do because I love him so much, and he loves me too. I just feel like everything is always on his time, and I wonder if I shouldn't be putting myself, not our relationship, first. Link to post Share on other sites
lioness Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 I think you should be thinking of yourself, as obviously he is. If after 6 years, he isn't ready to settle down with you, he probably won't ever be ready. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Sometimes you do have to put yourself and your future first. You can't put your life on hold or change your dreams just because he doesn't have the same ones you do. If you want to get married and have kids, sit down with him and talk to him about it. Tell him that that is what you want in your life, and that if it isn't what he wants, maybe the two of you shouldn't be together. Sometimes in life people's paths go different directions and you just have to go the way you want most. Link to post Share on other sites
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