jealously

[butterfly]

well i have been dating the same guy for almost 7 months, we have a good time with each other. I have a couple problems with our relationship. The first one is that I am always worried that he is going to cheat on me. Before we really were together he fooled around with some girl. Who later told him that she wasn't interested. But they still hang out with each other sometimes and I am afraid that if she decides that she is interested he will cheat on me. How can I erase some of my securities?

 

Then the second thing that is on my mind is sex. We just had oral sex with each other for the first time last weekend. I am still a virgin and he has slept with one person before me. He never pressures me into anything, and I want him to be my first. But the problem is that it always hurts after we fool around with each other, and I believe that sex is going to be really painful. Are there any suggestions about how to make the experience a little more enjoyable for my first time?

[sparkle]

butterfly,

 

I don't really have much advice about the first part of your post. But if you two are communicating openly with each other, and you've built up some trust, these insecure feelings should go away with time if he's being faithful.

 

But you should follow your intuition.

 

I don't know how you feel about him hanging out with other girls. This could be a red flag if he still has feelings for this girl and they're hanging out alone.

 

About the 2nd part, it makes me happy to see that you two have been going out for 7 months and you two haven't had sex. Way to go! Unfortunately, too many people I know end up having sex right away before they hardly know each other.

 

Well this says that: Sex is not the only thing he must be after. He must really like you to hold off and not pressure you.

to be my first. But the problem is that it always hurts after we fool around with each other, and

You lost me here. What do you mean when you say that "it hurts.."?

I believe that sex is going to be really painful. Are there any suggestions about how to make the experience a little more enjoyable for my first time?

The first time can be uncomfortable and/or painful, just use a lot of foreplay to get you in the mood to make you more relaxed. Tell him to take it slow and easy.

 

Read one of the posts below: Please Help!!! by Ronald. Read the replies to it, that may help.