He likes to be humiliated for pleasure..

[zanesfan]

This guy that I am talking to has revealed that he has a fetish for being humiliated. For example, he wants to be humiliated in front of my friends by doing whatever we say and making fun of him. Or he wants me to put a choker on him and drag him around and give him orders. Or he wants me instruct him on what to wear and model in front of friends while we laugh at him.

 

I have never been a dominatrix before but Im open to the idea.. I almost like it. However it is very strange to me since Ive never had anyone else enjoy this.

 

Can anyone relate to this or give me pointer on how to role play to make his fantasy come to life?

[Vercetti]

This guy that I am talking to has revealed that he has a fetish for being humiliated. For example, he wants to be humiliated in front of my friends by doing whatever we say and making fun of him. Or he wants me to put a choker on him and drag him around and give him orders. Or he wants me instruct him on what to wear and model in front of friends while we laugh at him.

 

I have never been a dominatrix before but Im open to the idea.. I almost like it. However it is very strange to me since Ive never had anyone else enjoy this.

 

Can anyone relate to this or give me pointer on how to role play to make his fantasy come to life?

 

Youtube Victoria Stilwell bound to get some ideas with that.

 

Just don't forget this is role playing. Humans are humans so there will need to be trust, should establish some safety words. Much as someone might want to be dominated have to be able to back off and have everyone come down to earth. I would advise not being in character all the time and treat it like a weekly event or such. Also should start off with a limited audience, domination isn't by committee and you need to learn how to maintain control.

[CarrieT]

Google the concepts of "sub-space" and "after care."

 

You can't emotionally or physically degrade someone without understanding the psychology behind it; you could cause considerably more damage.

 

Vercetti is right - this is not a 24/7 thing which is why "after care" is extremely important. Essentially, after someone has entered "subspace" of humiliation, they need to be cared for and coddled. It is a very fine line...

[RR1]

You should ask him, i suppose with anything like that it will be specific tastes at work so you need to find what works for both of you, an't no good just one of you enjoying it so you need to work out what works for him and tell him what you fancy doing as well. And as Vercetti says make sure it's safe, there has to be boundaries established which you both agree on beforehand.

[zanesfan]

Oh wow.. I didnt imagine that this could be so complex. Im almost afraid to participate now. But I will give it a try..

 

I agree with the safety words. Im not really sure how far to take it. But we are great communicators so this shouldnt be a problem. I just hope this does not mess ME up psychologically.

[CarrieT]

Zanesfan, considering joining and clicking around Fetlife-dot-com; it is a HUGE site for those involved in the fetish, but it takes a little time to figure out how to get around it; essentially, there are groups for EVERY imaginable fetish and those who discuss it ad nauseum.

 

There is a dominatrix training group with over 900 members, but there are also 180+ groups with "dominatrix" in their titles ("Ask A Dominatrix," "Muslim Dominatrix," "Winnipeg Dominatrix") - you get the picture... Heck, I belong to groups that are not fetish-related on that site (food, classic films, tweed) as well as fetish discussion groups like "Dominant Men that Like Submissive Women with Dominant Personalities."

 

But you could learn a LOT but that first group I mentioned by just reading others' experiences in delving into the lifestyle.