Cytochrome c Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 A lot of girls on OKCupid list themselves as looking for "Friends" and "Activity Partners." What does this mean? How many people actually go on a dating site to look for friends? And what exactly is meant as "activity partners?" Or are these euphemisms? Are girls looking for "Friends" looking for "Friends With Benifits?" What kind of "activities" do girls looking for "Activity Partners" want to do?
phineas Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Ignore what they say they are looking for & just meet with them. If you are attractive & have your stuff together they will not want to be just friends. But, if they really are just looking for friends then she can pay for her half of the tab. 2
carhill Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Ask them and find out. Someone looking for an 'activity partner' should list their interests in their profile. IMO, generally, based upon experience, it's a disclaimer. With the right guy, they'll be quite friendly and splitting the sheets will be their preferred activity with him as the 'activity partner'. For everyone else, disclaimer. 2
Samilia Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I have posted my profile on a website once, I couldn't bring myself to put a "looking for long term" or "dating". For me looking for activity partner means "lets get to know each other first". I would simply ask them, indeed.
Anela Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I had this listed, because I was looking for friends and people to do things with (not related to sex). It doesn't matter - nobody pays attention to that fact, and thinks that I'm looking to hit the sheets. I finally put in there that I was NOT looking for sex, and I didn't receive one more message. typical.
Divasu Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 It means she wants to build bunkbeds with you so you'll have extra room for activities. Haha, I couldn't help it... It could very well be what Anela said. 2
sweetkiwi Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I think of it as friends and activity partners but I can't see that working out in a non-dating way.
somedude81 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 IMO it's pretty safe to assume that anybody on a dating site is looking to date regardless of what they listed.
NoMoreJerks Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Friends with benefits / "nothing serious" / no commitment / no strings attached. That's what it means 99% of the time, IMO.
Author Cytochrome c Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 Friends with benefits / "nothing serious" / no commitment / no strings attached. That's what it means 99% of the time, IMO. Of course, but there isn't a "Friends with Benefits" option on OKC, but there's a "Friends" option. There's also "Casual Sex" listed, but I suspect the vast majority of girls who may be open to it are still too embarrassed to select it. Which is why I asked, is "Friends" a code-word for "Friends With Benefits?" Or are those girls just looking for someone to hang out with?
todreaminblue Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 A lot of girls on OKCupid list themselves as looking for "Friends" and "Activity Partners." What does this mean? How many people actually go on a dating site to look for friends? And what exactly is meant as "activity partners?" Or are these euphemisms? Are girls looking for "Friends" looking for "Friends With Benifits?" What kind of "activities" do girls looking for "Activity Partners" want to do? friends is friends .....activity partner i think bush walking swimming beach walks abseiling jump out of a plane together, scuba diving with grey nurses, ....activity partner is activites...dont they have a sex option??//like fwb had to google what fwb meant then i remembered, ohhhh friends with benefits....**** buddies..........to define that activities and friends thing.....i would quickly define what i meant anyway as soon as the question was asked i think that is all you need to do to define what one persons personal opinion of terminology is.....deb 1
NoMoreJerks Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Of course, but there isn't a "Friends with Benefits" option on OKC, but there's a "Friends" option. There's also "Casual Sex" listed, but I suspect the vast majority of girls who may be open to it are still too embarrassed to select it. Which is why I asked, is "Friends" a code-word for "Friends With Benefits?" Or are those girls just looking for someone to hang out with? If they were just looking for someone to "hang out with", why does it have to be someone of the opposite sex ? There is an element of sexuality/sex involved, if it's being done on a dating site. I would go so far as to say that the reason that most people (male or female) don't choose the casual sex option is not because they're "embarassed", but because it narrows down the pool of people who might look at their profile and meet up with them.
SmileFace Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I have done it. I have two good guy friends that I meet on okc who I share common interests with and never had the odd "are we dating" problems. Both of them have moved from my area but we continue to be friends. We have common interests and talk about those things - I don't talk to these guys about my relationships or anything like that and they do the same - so it isn't me seeking attention from males or avoiding theirs. I think it depends person to person. 1
tigressA Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 When I went back on OKC the last time around, I did list solely 'new friends' as what I was looking for, and I was looking for 'everybody' in a specific age group, any relationship status. I did meet up with a couple of guys and girls. I wasn't looking to date, but sparks flew when I met my now-boyfriend there. I think having only friends and/or activity partners under what someone is looking for can be taken at face value when they're not looking only for single people of the opposite sex as well. 1
veggirl Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I thought activity partner was a euphemism for Fk buddy. 1
Anela Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I thought activity partner was a euphemism for Fk buddy. That's what I was afraid of. I mentioned it in my profile, to make sure there were no mistakes in communication there. I think it's just to get together with people for specific things, like meet-ups.
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