RustyLove Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 I have come searching for a little light on a situation I have put myself in- I just want help making decisions around it and I can't make these decisions to save my life! Here goes: We have been working together for more than a few months now, and every shift I work with him around is another inch closer to going insane. As soon as he started he made that impression, he's attractive, confident, smooth voice and sweet smile- everything that would catch your attention. He's a nice guy to everyone, and I'm feeling that he's quite the flirt too. Not the touchy feely hey babe kind, but the sweet kind that just captures your heart. And unfortunately captured mine. Aaaaand I cannot take it. Each day is different, some days he's more distant and less flirty, but some he's a little more outgoing and fun. When there is silence he breaks it, and sometimes I try to as well. He has mentioned his past relationship and how hurt he was, about his life at home and his raising, parts of his life and his relationships with his families- all touching and makes me love him all the more. Towards him I try to be the same as I am to everyone, I try to be witty, funny, a flirt (gosh I am so awful my mind lives in a gutter I swear) though he throws me off guard, and some things I say- which I would say in the same situation with any other person- he makes me wish I never said, because there is more meaning behind it than he knoows, and I don't want to be completely obvious and look stupid for being so forward. He sometimes brings up things I have said, surprising me with the fact he remembers these things, and asks me about them. He noticed I stopped wearing a certain piece of clothing, saying its his favourite colour and its distracting. I once said as a joke that no one appreciates anything I do, and he said that he appreciates me for talking to him and stuff, and (in a flustered way of course haha) that its because I like him. I do tell him I like him, when he says something totally incredible I just turn, chuckle and say "You know, I like you. I really like you.' and he laughs. Wah . I've even asked how am I going to survive not seeing him for 4 days, him saying 'you can think of me', then me replying with 'oh I already do, but that's not enough.' in my flirty 'I have no idea what Im doing someone kill me now ' tone. He just laughed of course. He is (I am guessing) similar with other girls. Some I work with I see with him are all in high spirits, him too with his smiling face. I feel others have fallen for his charm, though they'd be quick to deny it. No one mentions anything to me so I can't say much about this here. I could go on forever, in hopes of getting my own head around what's going on, but I'll stop because I'm rambling really! I'm sorry about the scattered thoughts and stuff, smartphones aren't so smart when it comes to re-reading this post! But all in all, in the end here I just need someone to tell me what's going on. Is he being nice? Just a guy? Does he like me? Do you think he knows I like him in more a romantic way? Maybe even some tips here. Maybe on how not to let the infatuation get to me like it has been. Yet again- sorry about the scatter brain post, I appreciate any sort of feedback or pat on the head of sympathy because I'm going insane haha! Thanks for the help, x Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) i sympathise with you......i have no idea...its hard when you liek a guy and its hard to read them....what you thought to be true before with signs is a bit blinded with your emotions maybe...thats what i get.....i normally can read guys pretty easily...not if i really like them though they become challenging and scary plus frustrating ....... i dont like being forward either...if i like a guy they basically have to tell me..that5 is how it has happened in the past....because i am blind to everything but making sure i dont make them uncomfortable..and trying to stand as close as is humanly possible without freaking them out....lol.....does that sound familiar? as i said i sympathize...i have found if i am not attracted to a guy it makes it so much easier not to be so cautious i really try hard not to feel scared as crap.apparently my family said i put up a good front and you can ttell hwo nervous i actually am they can though.....they call me bambi.....bouncy....blah blah.its easier if i date people i dont really like.....thats retarded ...i am leaving now...just want to say i am so not a wimp in life...but love....big chicken....once i am dating a guy and h eis relaxed i pick up his vibe and can be myself but that initial approach....killlllller.normally a guy i really like can say something that renders me into silence....and the last guy has a couple of times now...so going no contact(attempting)...scary guy.......deb Edited January 2, 2013 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
Author RustyLove Posted January 2, 2013 Author Share Posted January 2, 2013 I know exactly what you mean! Guys who you're not attracted to are like open books, but if there are feelings, it's like there is no chance of seeing anything! I'm just so afraid to ask and be shot down. I'd need to be sure before I could say or do anything. I'll never get anywhere in love Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 I know exactly what you mean! Guys who you're not attracted to are like open books, but if there are feelings, it's like there is no chance of seeing anything! I'm just so afraid to ask and be shot down. I'd need to be sure before I could say or do anything. I'll never get anywhere in love emotions are my down fall.......if i can maintain a balance and an equilibrium i would be sweet, but I have been this way most of my life so ....its pretty much ingrained.....maybe dating others would help me...desensitize me....but thats not really fair on the guys.....and makes me a little queasy thinking they might try and kiss me and i have to fend it off.....feelin a bit green.....change of subject....how was your today rusty good i hope, blue skies for you, do anything special what are you having for dinner???????........smilin....deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author RustyLove Posted January 3, 2013 Author Share Posted January 3, 2013 Oh wow, I have thought the same way! That's why I haven't had many relationships- I find that I can't just go with a little good feeling to date someone, because it would be unfair to the guy. Haha, I am not too bad thanks for asking- still pondering all this though :/ Hope all is well for you! x Link to post Share on other sites
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