fgee Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 I know this is completely mean and messed up. I feel horrible for even feeling this way, and it has become a very big issue for me and my boyfriend, to the point were we have been so close to breaking up. My boyfriend and I are both 17 and we have been together for a while now. He lives with his older sister, which is his legal guardian, her sister's husband and their two kids, which end up being my boyfriend's niece and nephew, the guy is 17 like us , and his niece is around 19 or so. I noticed since the beginning that the relationship between him and his niece is just a little too much and too weird for me. maybe because i'm not a part of his family and i don't understand how close they are but to me is just weird. and I find it unfair that i feel like as if i'm in competition with her. They have nick names for each other They both like almost the same stuff They always txt and i find it unnecessary because they live together I noticed that when i tell him a story that is supposed to be funny he doesnt laugh but if its her telling it he laughs like crazy and it makes me feel like i have to be like her or something in order to get the same reactions from him. Last time when we were at my house we were watching a movie and he was texting her and laughing. I find that hurtful because he lives with her and he practically sees her like everyday, yet i dont see him as often and when we're together he's texting her. In another occasion, i had asked him if i could pluck his eyebrows just for the fun of it, and he said because it hurts, yet a couple of days letter he tells me "my niece was plucking my CHEST HAIRS like really!!! I'm his damn girlfriend and he doesnt even let me see him shirt less. I just need a girl's point of view to see if i have the right to feel this way or if i should just get over it somehow. I told my boyfriend about it but i know he doesnt understand so i told him that i wasnt going to his house for a while till I can figure all of this out. I spent new year;s with him and it was hell. I had to sit at the dinner table, watching them interact and he knows how i feel about it yet he went along with it, all i did was sit there quiet. i knew i shouldnt have gone because it was only going to make matters worse. but he wanted me to go , i was sick and even like that i went just to show him that im trying, but it's unfair for him to just do that to me when he knows how i feel. i just feel like she's the number one girl for him and im just #2 , if she was his sister i would understand, but shes JUST his sister's daughter and that's IT . i dont even feel like he gives me my place as his girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
fieldsofgold84 Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Fgee, In some cultures first cousins can marry and stuff but I do not know any culture or tradition that you can be anything more than niece and uncle. Probably they are close, esp because they live together and are of the same age. I have not seen them together and honestly the whole scenario is a bit too surreal. I mean for heaven's sake she's his niece but you never know. People are weird. Nothing helps better than open lines of communication. Make sure you don't go all messy and emotional on him and calmly ask him to explain to you. Then give yourself some time and see if his explanation satisfies you or not. If not, run for your sanity because even a tiny possibility is too much. You don't want to be involved in anything as messed up as it sounds. Hope it helps Link to post Share on other sites
GSB81 Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Ok, as sick as it is, incest does happen. A few years ago there was an attempted murder in my county where a guy stabbed his cousin's new boyfriend repeatedly because he and his cousin had been in an incestuous relationship for years. Even if this isn't the case here, you are being screwed over. Your boyfriend needs to get his priorities straight. Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 In my life I have known both a guy who was intensely attracted to and in love with his twin sister, and a friend of mine who made out with (and had sex with) her first cousin. Drop him. No one deserves to feel as bad as you are feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
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