joegriffin Posted August 17, 2004 Share Posted August 17, 2004 Hi everyone, new to the shack. Me and my girl just broke up, here is the whole story. We never took time to know one another before we lived together, I asked her out and four days later I moved in with her, she needed a roomate to help with bills anyway, but we moved in together as a couple, boyfriend and girlfriend. Anyhow things were great except for the fact we both took so much offense to the others critiscm. She always told me that I was trying to be too perfect and she felt low, like i was too arragant or something. She griped about dishes, everything she would say something about, but we had great sex and we were very playful with one another, she liked to tickle me and we were really good friends too. We both have too much pride and finally the other night she got home and said something that made me upset, so I told her I was gonna pack up and leave, she got made and said it was a good idea to be apart for a few days. I told her I still wanna be boyfriend and girlfriend and she said yes defently. On the way out I heard her friend on the phone tell her this guy was coming over, well he was coming over to give her a movie or something he borrowed before we met, I assumed the guy was coming over for something else and I told her I cant believe I am just leaving and she already has another man coming over, she got soooo pissed and said I accused her of cheating. I went to a friends and when I called her she told me we were through. I came over the next day with some new clothes I bought her and a bracelet and a card, as well as a poem and gave them to her, well I thiought it would help her get over it, well I come over yesterday and she told me no matter what we are through, but I notice she looked like she was crying a whole lot, even more than I was. So Do you guys think she is serious or just trying to teach me a lesson? Or maybe just upset and needing some time to get over it and get back with me? I have never broken up and tried to get back with anyone so I need all the help I can get. Please be honest and tell me what I can do or if I can do anything to win her back, I know now just how much I love this girl and dont want to go the rest of my life without her. email me at [email protected] Thanks, Joe Link to post Share on other sites
YellowLioness Posted August 17, 2004 Share Posted August 17, 2004 You need to ask HER what's she's feeling, not ask us. We're not mind readers, and chances are that none of us here know who she is. It sounds like you all went too far too fast, and that neither of you are ready for a live-in partner. I bet you that you could still be together if one of you moved out. However, that's just a feeling that I have based on what you've said. It does not sound as if there is a lack of love, or an irreconcilable difference of tastes, or beliefs. Perhaps if you both compromise, things can work out. However, compromise takes a great deal of patience, and you all seem young. I'm not insuinuating that you can't do it; I'm just telling you flat out, from someone who has been there, it's hard. Maybe with time and space you all can grow together, then try to move in again. Link to post Share on other sites
Taken_Angel Posted August 17, 2004 Share Posted August 17, 2004 I agree I wanted to comment earlier but decided against it since he asked for "email" I too think only she can tell you, I can see on your part how it would look bad that she already had someone coming over, why not have him return it while you were there! It was something she loaned him before she met you, sounds to me like it was an excuse to "see him" but just my POV.. But if it was innocent then you shouldn't have "accused" her, you should have asked her why she waited until you left before having him return it to her. Feeling "accused" could make someone very upset and not want to be with someone who doesn't trust them. Either way you should be open, honest, and calm, let her know how YOU feel and don't be defensive, be open to hearing how SHE feels w/out trying to change her mind. Some girls for some reason feel the need to be "pursued" but some just are really "done" when they say they are! Link to post Share on other sites
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