cavalier99 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 i have a feeling you are DYING to tell us details...so just go ahead (RR version I guess)...riceroni ur over 16 right?! Ha i pretty much gave all details. I just thought her response was hilarious. Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Ha i pretty much gave all details. I just thought her response was hilarious. You did !!!!! Ok im gonna go bad and read. :-) Link to post Share on other sites
RiceaRoni Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 i have a feeling you are DYING to tell us details...so just go ahead (RR version I guess)...riceroni ur over 16 right?! Haha yes I'm 18 But omg I think I'll just get off LS for a while until Cav has his detailed story of sexual fun told... Lol Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Ha i pretty much gave all details. I just thought her response was hilarious. You are acting like you've had sex for the first time or something Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 You are acting like you've had sex for the first time or something first time since break up is a big step...i give cav some credit...and WITHOUT crying afterwards too.... :-0 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Its been a while. Maybe because ive struck out so much since the BU? Hmm. I think more im just happy im not thinking about the ex much anymore. It really isnt about the sex. That isnt a big deal just fun. I just feel like the burdon of the BU is lifting and am super happy i can just have fun again without a cloud hanging over my head and can laugh again, Cav 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 first time since break up is a big step...i give cav some credit...and WITHOUT crying afterwards too.... :-0 Mine came like four days after the breakup. No crying but it wasn't awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Mine came like four days after the breakup. No crying but it wasn't awesome. Yeah, in the past, I have done that too. I was just really stiff and unpassionate. It was me not them. It was the worst sex Ever....and then I joked about it a week later and.....they didnt find it funny. :-s Link to post Share on other sites
iouaname Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Sounds like she enjoyed it, too, Cav 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Yeah, in the past, I have done that too. I was just really stiff and unpassionate. It was me not them. It was the worst sex Ever....and then I joked about it a week later and.....they didnt find it funny. :-s I guess that is why im happy. ive hooked up before after the BU but was still thinking about the ex and miserable after. This time the ex didnt enter my mind at all. No guilt no comparisons. Its just another step to getting over things and regaining my confidence which has been my goal all along. Cheers to getting indifferent!! We'll all get there soon enough and enjoy our single lives until we find someone else. Cav 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 All of you with your latent sex stories after a break-up. Cannot say I share in that. As I blocked all my emotions but intense rage for months on end. One could say, I lacked all desires, or empathy for many months after...all but a passionate anger that was slowly turning me into something I'd rather not be. to each their own Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 first time since break up is a big step...i give cav some credit...and WITHOUT crying afterwards too.... :-0 I would surely hope you wouldn't cry afterwards.... Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 All of you with your latent sex stories after a break-up. Cannot say I share in that. As I blocked all my emotions but intense rage for months on end. One could say, I lacked all desires, or empathy for many months after...all but a passionate anger that was slowly turning me into something I'd rather not be. to each their own It took me a while, but I did and I started to enjoy it. But I ended that FWB and i'm either looking for a new one, or an actual relationship. Might as well have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 It took me a while, but I did and I started to enjoy it. But I ended that FWB and i'm either looking for a new one, or an actual relationship. Might as well have fun. Tbh: fwbs really aren't my style. I am over my ex, though mentally I bare my scars. perhaps even spiritually? or perhaps nothing more than insanity, who knows? Believe me I can fwb, but...just not my style. Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Tbh: fwbs really aren't my style. I am over my ex, though mentally I bare my scars. perhaps even spiritually? or perhaps nothing more than insanity, who knows? Believe me I can fwb, but...just not my style. No your not insane. I'm having alot of issues with anger as well and I noticed a quick.temper towards people lately. Hard to just shake off. I know it will fade but I just havr to go through.the emotions. I just hate everything latley, my life, friends , family, going out, esp people on the street holding hands, I hate them!! Im just a walking bitter witch with lots of hate, misery, anger and resentment. :-( I.was at a mall cafe a few.weeks ago and this.young couple sat across from me and the were just stoking each other hair, lookig into each other eyes and whispering **** to each other It was so annoying.! I swear I almost wanted to tell them like...hey THIS right now...means nothing and will.mean nothing when one of yoos in fee.months dumps the other...so just stop that ****!! IDIOTS!!...:-( Link to post Share on other sites
Damsel in Distress Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 I dont.think it makes them feel better. I think it makes them feel more disconnected and disgusted by an overly emotional ex. They start seeing you as this pathetic pitiful codependent diseased human being that needs to be quarantined right away!! And so they act colder the more you express your feelings. :-( ... Trust me I cried, pleaded, groveled, text terrorized, acted like I needed my stuff, blah blah just so I can feel.connected in someway. Totally regret it now and kinda ashamed. Was not worth it really. The only thing I got from it was seeing this disappointing cruel side of her that I kind of new was there but I just never experienced it myself. FWIW, I reacted in a pretty non-emotional way and it didn't make a difference. My ex was clearly torn up with guilt about blindsiding me with the news he was interested in somebody else and said the only thing holding him back from getting with this girl was guilt about hurting me. Because he struggles with depression (and I still care about him!) I was very careful to not react emotionally and make him feel any more guilt. I told him that I was disappointed but that it would not be fair to me just because he didn't want to hurt me, so I can't hold him back. No tears, no begging, just a calm discussion about how in the world this came to happen. I did say it was so sudden that it felt like a punch in the stomach, but that's about as emotional as it got. And this non-emotional response got me nowhere. He responded by saying that he was still very confused, wasn't sure what he was going to decide to do, thanked me profusely for talking to him about it, said the calm discussion was one of the things he likes so much about me, and told me to call any time. Then hung up and hasn't made contact or responded to a phone calls/text/emails since, and that's been over a month. So don't beat yourself up about reacting emotionally. Seems like there's no good way to respond - by the time they tell you their decision has been made. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 No your not insane. I'm having alot of issues with anger as well and I noticed a quick.temper towards people lately. Hard to just shake off. I know it will fade but I just havr to go through.the emotions. I just hate everything latley, my life, friends , family, going out, esp people on the street holding hands, I hate them!! Im just a walking bitter witch with lots of hate, misery, anger and resentment. :-( I.was at a mall cafe a few.weeks ago and this.young couple sat across from me and the were just stoking each other hair, lookig into each other eyes and whispering **** to each other It was so annoying.! I swear I almost wanted to tell them like...hey THIS right now...means nothing and will.mean nothing when one of yoos in fee.months dumps the other...so just stop that ****!! IDIOTS!!...:-( Being ruled by anger, isn't quite as bad as being ruled by sorrow. Sorrow will cause you to do all kinds of things, that not even the devil of hell would do. Better to be angry I suppose. Until it hits the fan...Like it did me. Now, I control said anger! I am well over my ex, it has been a year, and the only thing she means to me is the devil itself. She is the rep. of evil to me. Yet, I still barely feel anything at all, whistles* It truly is better to break-up with such people as soon as possible, because you waste all your hopes and mind on them But it is all good, I still have fun! Even if I haven't touched a vagina in 1million or so years! it seems. Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 If I had to do it over again....I would stay unemotional because you dont lose your dignity, self esteem and dont have to bang your head against the wall each time you.think about how the breakup went down. You handled it well though!....kudos to you. Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Being ruled by anger, isn't quite as bad as being ruled by sorrow. Sorrow will cause you to do all kinds of things, that not even the devil of hell would do. Better to be angry I suppose. Until it hits the fan...Like it did me. Now, I control said anger! I am well over my ex, it has been a year, and the only thing she means to me is the devil itself. She is the rep. of evil to me. Yet, I still barely feel anything at all, whistles* It truly is better to break-up with such people as soon as possible, because you waste all your hopes and mind on them But it is all good, I still have fun! Even if I haven't touched a vagina in 1million or so years! it seems. My ex IS the devil. oh dont worry...Im sure you will touch a few more vaginas before you meet your maker! :-)...lol Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 My ex IS the devil. oh dont worry...Im sure you will touch a few more vaginas before you meet your maker! :-)...lol Lol never know, I could bite the dust bunny tonight. No, but I am sure I will. Unless you just jinxed me! Great going there Destroyed! Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Lol never know, I could bite the dust bunny tonight. No, but I am sure I will. Unless you just jinxed me! Great going there Destroyed! I didnt jinx you!! I call upon the energy of the online universe to give todd a continous and steady flow of vagina in his life and in the afterlife....lol Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 I didnt jinx you!! I call upon the energy of the online universe to give todd a continous and steady flow of vagina in his life and in the afterlife....lol Lol! I think I will be alright without it in the afterlife; I am not dealing with the insanity of that lol! Well....On a serious note: Goodbye all, it is time to go, and where I go, you all cannot go; fare-the-well! Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Great Na...your 110 page thread made.someone take the final.plunge....that and the fact that you havent been progressing much......lolol Start.now.before you clear.out all of LS. Link to post Share on other sites
McDonald Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Wait... what just happened? Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 Great Na...your 110 page thread made.someone take the final.plunge....that and the fact that you havent been progressing much......lolol Start.now.before you clear.out all of LS. Oh yeah. I forgot. THIS IS STILL NA'S thread!! Lol Cav Link to post Share on other sites
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