McDonald Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Na needs to respond to this thread (not her) pronto 1 Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 just cam back from therapist and he said I may have PSTD triggered by this relationship I was in and I keep obsessing about it bc I dont want to deal with repressed issues I had from choldhood. Guess its just another thing I have to deal with along with the BU and depression! Universe just keep piling more **** up on me....hate my life..never ending crap. I feel so bad I yelled at my therapist bc I havent been getting better. i think he is sick of me. :-( Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Ok, I think we need to split up: Cav, you take Fred and Daphne and search the old mine. Simon, you and Velma circle back to the creepy portrait gallery. Chitown and McDonald, follow Scooby and Shaggy to the haunted roller coaster. The rest of us will wait here at the Mystery Machine listening to vintage 70s rock. NA, WHERE ARE YOU? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 just cam back from therapist and he said I may have PSTD triggered by this relationship I was in and I keep obsessing about it bc I dont want to deal with repressed issues I had from choldhood. Guess its just another thing I have to deal with along with the BU and depression! Universe just keep piling more **** up on me....hate my life..never ending crap. I feel so bad I yelled at my therapist bc I havent been getting better. i think he is sick of me. :-( Hmmm . Im begining to forget what i was so upset about. Yay for NC! Good thing you didnt hit him! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Ok, I think we need to split up: Cav, you take Fred and Daphne and search the old mine. Simon, you and Velma circle back to the creepy portrait gallery. Chitown and McDonald, follow Scooby and Shaggy to the haunted roller coaster. The rest of us will wait here at the Mystery Machine listening to vintage 70s rock. NA, WHERE ARE YOU? I like Daphne!....and ummm Fred! Score! Lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Ok, I think we need to split up: Cav, you take Fred and Daphne and search the old mine. Simon, you and Velma circle back to the creepy portrait gallery. Chitown and McDonald, follow Scooby and Shaggy to the haunted roller coaster. The rest of us will wait here at the Mystery Machine listening to vintage 70s rock. NA, WHERE ARE YOU? He's having a hard time finding the computer when his head is inside his own rectum. I mean, seriously! If he HAD to respond to her saying that her life sucks without him in it, I would have given him a little credit if he responded with "That was your choice, not mine." and left it at that. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 (edited) Ok, I think we need to split up: Cav, you take Fred and Daphne and search the old mine. Simon, you and Velma circle back to the creepy portrait gallery. Chitown and McDonald, follow Scooby and Shaggy to the haunted roller coaster. The rest of us will wait here at the Mystery Machine listening to vintage 70s rock. NA, WHERE ARE YOU? haha..this made me laugh!!!....LOL Na is making it in the Mystery Machine with ex.. i wouldnt go in there. Edited April 8, 2013 by destroyed4sho Link to post Share on other sites
RiceaRoni Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Na gave me some good support and advice... what happened to him??? I thought he was tough and strong! come on Na..don't fall for your ex's breadcrumbs...you want the whole loaf of bread..not crumbs... meaning..you don't deserve her! she only gives you crumbs! you want a WOMAN..a woman who will give you the entire loaf of bread! Geez...I hope he's doing okay Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 NA might be busy. Wait for his return before anyone starts in. To be honest, everyone has added to NAs super long thread. We shall see when he returns. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I KNEW that something was coming down the spike for NA and I was HOPING that it would be a girl that he met in the gym or in class that was totally into him. Not for him to have a visit from the Wicked Witch of the West again.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I KNEW that something was coming down the spike for NA and I was HOPING that it would be a girl that he met in the gym or in class that was totally into him. Not for him to have a visit from the Wicked Witch of the West again.... yeah it was like he was waiting for something.. and the whole blocking wore off deal just dont buy it..lol I hope the girl is for real and she doesnt break his heart again..:-/ guess we shall find out soon... Link to post Share on other sites
McDonald Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Or "You should have thought about that before opening your legs" Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I just feel that he was afraid to take that next step into opening up socially and actually meeting someone else. If he was able to do that, he would have no other choice but to severe ties to her completely in order to move onto the next girl. That he would have to except that the relationship is truely over. I kinda agree that something smells a bit fishy about her texting/ calling him. I mean, when he orginally blocked her, he stated that the block would only last a few months. Fair enough, He knew that; we knew that....but, how did she know that the block wasn't permanent? How did she know that the block would be lifted and she was free to text him? I mean, there's no way she would have been trying to send texts to a blocked number FOR FOUR MONTHS! If she was hell bent on contacting him, she would have hunted him down on Campus. I mean, more than enough of her friends have seen him around. It wouldn't be too difficult to track him down. Or even show up at his place of work or show up at his house. So, things aren't making sense. Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 chi- I know right?....i was thinking that too. i think he sleep texted her and she called him back.....lol Link to post Share on other sites
GB25 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 chi- I know right?....i was thinking that too. i think he sleep texted her and she called him back.....lol I was thinking the same thing as soon as I read that she texted him at 4am...something doesnt add up here..im kinda not buying it. Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 To me it kinda sound like a fluke, she maybe just forgot about the block and happened to text him. Although the time of day does seem really weird. Link to post Share on other sites
GB25 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 To me it kinda sound like a fluke, she maybe just forgot about the block and happened to text him. Although the time of day does seem really weird. I CALL B.S.!!!! nah im kidding but it is weird Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Seriously, wait for Na guys and girls. Otherwise this is all jumping the gun; he could have very well told her no. Till we hear from him - assumptions(though probably right), are pointless. He is a lot like how I was. So...I know what he'll do...though I hope not(this is an assumption.) But we should wait for Na. It'll never end l....and what hope does a deceiver bring?... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 It isn't even surprising if she did even text him late at night. At night, it is usually just you and your thoughts/dreams. Even if a person is next too you, they could very well be asleep. She probably realized something there, but it was too late. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Huh? I have no reason not to beleive what NA said. Who said she texted him before this or called him while the block was in effect. My block expired today and i just re did it for the 3rd time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author na49 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Share Posted April 8, 2013 (edited) For starters, no I didn't contact her. AT ALL. That might sound like BS, but I've seriously kept all of my stupid thoughts and urges in this thread. There's no way to convince you guys of that, so you'll just have to take my word for it. I have no idea how she knew the block would be over, but she did know I blocked her because she mentioned it to me. The block must have expired, I didn't renew it because I figured she got the picture. No other contact from her so why think she wants anything to do with me? Everything I saw on facebook told me she moved on. Apparently not though... She did apologize and ask about rekindling our relationship. Told me "She was single by the way" Accused us both of being stubborn then (typical) and all of that jazz. She's exactly like Chi said which is, she doesn't like when people don't think she's a nice person. Don't think I welcomed her back with open arms because I didn't. Never truly welcomed her back either. I questioned her up and down about everything including why she contacted me in the first place. The end of our relationship. Why she did what she did. etc. Her excuse was "stress". Oh boy... Now the problem with talking to her is that I have no idea if she's feeding me what I want to hear or not. (and I figure she is). Of course she told me it was because she missed and told me she always had feelings for me. but I called BS on that and told her "I don't doubt any of that. My problem is when things get rough would you leave again?" to which she responded "No of course not" You'd think someone who got "the message" from their ex about wanting to get back together would be jumping off the walls. It's not as exciting as you would think. Even if you do still "love" them. Edited April 8, 2013 by na49 3 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Good job. Do you want her back? I dont think you do. You should tell her it wont work and continue with NC. There are better girls out there for you. how do you feel? Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Haha! He didn't get back together with her, haha! Haha! See guys,waiting a couple of minutes never hurts! Haha Haha and one more: HAHA Now to get serious: Na49, ah, no, you take nothing she says as serious. For one: She has not owned up to the cheating. She used a weak excuse "Stress" And on top of that, she blamed it on both of your stubbornness. Doesn't sound like someone who is sorry. She is just single now, and looking for someone to feed her for a while -- that's you buddy. She knows you care, so ofc, she comes back. When things get rough, she will be gone again. If not even before that...when she finds someone else to cheat on you with. Sorry dude, but she never admitted any signs of remorse. Without remorse, there truly is no healing. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Love is actions not words. How did you feel when she apologized? Did you feel she meant it? Did she say that she wont cheat agian and try to rebulild the trust you lost for her? It really is about how you feel and if you can trust her again. Its going to take time. Dont rush it. She was 'stressed'?? .......hmmmmffff Link to post Share on other sites
destroyed4sho Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Sorry dude, but she never admitted any signs of remorse. Without remorse, there truly is no healing. Without remorse, there is no healing and foundation for the trust to be rebuilt. Its a risk thought bc you never know what another person is truely thinking or feeling. Id give it another shot if you are up to it. Seems like the rose colored glasses are off and your not as excited as you thought youd be. I could definitely see.my narcissistic ex saying that exactly and more, but.not.feeling a word of it....so the real question is do you trust her??! Link to post Share on other sites
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