im in kinda a predicement with getting a girlfriend...

[irobert]

Well i guess its my turn to talk about my problems,

But i better give ou some background on myself. I am 16 and from england. and i have had never really had much luck with girls.

 

I used to live aout 30miles where i do now, i used to go to school and i am a pritty smart child. (not bragging i dont like to brag).

 

I have had a few girlfriends, mostly in primary school thou but i dont really count them as real girlfriends.

 

Back where i used to live the guys in the school were jelous of me and the reflected this out on hate but i did have a small groupe of friends. just took me untill year 10 to find my true friends. (age 14)

 

I used to like this girl since i was about 13. i liked her right untill i left school 3 years later. i did nothign for 2 years untill i finally told her how i felt. i trted everythign i could to go out with her but she didnt want to. that was the only time i ever asked a girl out.

 

I have a major confidence problem. which i blame on the guys which hated me which were allways putting me down, i think of myself pritty poorly. apart from i know i am reasonably smart in school but anythign else i am no good at.

 

Personality i think i am ugly and fat. im 11 and a quarter stone and 5 foot 11 high. which dosnt help when asking someone out because i allways think well i have no chance and i have a fear of rejection from lass'. coz i fear it wil just make me even less confident.

 

Girls used to ask me out as a joke also so when girls used to ask me out i allways used to think it was a joke and thus said no. but just before i left school before my exams i took a chance on one of them, because she was a close friend and all and said yes. and i went out with her for 2 months 4 days. but i had to do somethign i hate doing, i had to brake up with her. main reason was i was being pressured by her to sleep with her and "take thigns to the highest level" which i didnt like.

 

i also moved away and there is a big distence now. and because of my low confidence i cant make friends at my new town because i cant just go up and say hi to people.

luckily i found someone on faceparty.com which lives in my same town i now live in and i have bene talking to her but shes not my type. I am genrally a guy which dont mind about looks its personality. but i dont og out with girls which smoke or od druges and all..

infact i normally like the smart quiet girls. but i cant meet anyhere since ive left school coz its hard out of school. I used to go out every evening to the shop in hopes of meeting someoen but even if i did see someoen i woudlnt go upto them and say hi because of low confidence.

Pluess ive moved to an area where all the girls ive seen thus far smoke or worse.

 

my old friends have stoped talking to me now ive moved and the rest have fallen out with me coz i broke up with my gf. but i coudltn tell them the real reason why because i just couldnt. im not the mean.

 

I know myself that i am a nice guy. infact i woudl be happy just going out with someone just so i had someoen to hold and kiss. nothign more. but ive gotten to the age where others my age want to go further. but i dont think im ready. well i minght want to go further but i fear it. and the concequences of it.

 

now ive bene single for 3 weeks (to saythat before the girlfriend for 2months 4 days i was single for about 7 years.. :S) and im beginging to think to myself again i have no hope what so ever. i wan to meet someeon. i want to go out with someone, and i want a hug.

 

but i cant due to low ocnfidence and not knowing everyone and the circumstances. so im in a prediciment.

 

to me i cant just go upto someoen i dont know in the street and ask them out. id never have the confidence to do it. i even tryed something online to build ocnfidence but it did onl work to help me ask that other girl out which keped saying no and after about the 40th time i got the hint finally. and i felt awful.

 

but i sometimes get upset and depressed over it and knowing to myself that i have no chance with girls ut i want a chance so much.

 

i dont nkow wat im doing really. maybe i just come on here to just tell someoen about wats gogin on.. or to look for dvice i dont know. its commign up on 2am and i cant sleep. but i think thats because yestoday i had my first ever 2"falling" dream.. where i went parashooting.. i didnt dream of the jump just the fall. i fell down towards earth.. towards a field but as i got closer i saw a tall building in the middle of this field. which i landed on, well didnt land i died. but intresting how i died i didnt die straght away for somereaons my leg got decapitated went up into the air and came down straght through my chest and heart which kileld me. which was odd.. but anyways im goign off track.

 

i beeter end this.. feel free to post your advice or what ever. coz im kinda in a predicement. and i know 16 is younge but to have someoen just to hug cant be too much to ask? can it?

[ice_solid_2k4]

i feel ur pain bro...i've been single for 18 years...

[irobert]

well its kinda been along time.. for me.. onesemi serious (oz its notm net to be serious unless u hit 6months) girlfriend rest were liek a day or 2.. but in prinmary school which dont count.. so i can say wat tis bene 15 years i went before.. and i feel like im gonenr go back into another 30.. which i dont want.........

 

i just wish i coudl meet someoen and be able to ask em out and they woudl say yes like...

[EIN]

First of all, you say you consider yourself an intelligent person so what is up with the spelling mistakes and grammar in your sentences. I hope this is not what your primary school has taught you. About confidence, 1. workout more (I could not comprehend what you wrote about your weight) because you say you're at 5 feet 11 in. Thats a good height so if you happen to be skinny, put on some muscles and increase your chest size (that gets their attention). 2. Wear clothes that appeals to you and not just a trend thing. This will let the girls know that you are an individual type and not goin along with the crowd (girls like independent guys). 3. Talk about them but not excessively, compliment them on little things that they want to be complimented on (ex. wow you are such a good listener). The "you look really beautiful" ones are so used so you have to be genuine with those remarks that reflects about them. 4. Walk into a setting like you own the place, not a big pimping daddy but like hey ladies, im cool come feel this chill if you can handle it. 5. If you get shot down, dont get discouraged. Keep in my mind :YOUR LOSS and move on to the next girl. Think of it like this : Yankee Great Babe Ruth who has the most home runs ever also had the most strikeouts. You gotta keep swinging even thou you get strikeouts. Hopefully you'll get there. Best of Luck.

[irobot2]

ok first of all ill address the spelling mistakes,

 

Now i am a fairly inteligent person. But i have my downfalls. Spelling is one and handwriteing is annother but to say i am going into ICT it dosnt matter too much.

The reason behind this is i was born with a major problem with my speach, i codlnt promounce many leter.. liek the letter L due to somethign wrogn with my toncils.

Now i had to have speach therapy when i was younger for it and now i can speak ok. HOWEVER this was at a cirtictle time in my life when i was lurning to spell. and thus somethigns i spell incorectly.

 

ALSO there is typeing errors coz i wrote it at about 2am and was half assleep andi am working on tpyeing faster.. i currently type 91words a min according to the speed checker andi find the best way to get faster is to just type faster.. however this method does make a few typos.

 

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I would respect on this forum that i am not had ago at by peopel due to "spellings" it is totally inapropiate for the topic of discussion.

[EIN]

My apology. You should have mentioned that before on your 1st post.