Husband emotional affair tear our family apart..

[mummy]

My husband says no such thing as emotional affair!

First am sorry for my English as i am not English and never study where I coming from(country girl)

And I only have 1 or 2 friend here no family.....no one....

This letter I wanted to send to him but now decided to ask what other women's think first cause my husband says am not English I don't understand that when he send the text to other women say

'Sleep tight' mean sleep well ?

Am home with my babe everyday and am out of my mind here...

 

Its 9 years this year that we've been marriage.

Our marriage start to fall apart from lack of communication from both of us and now it's too late.

It's long story it's happen when we are apart and when have our baby.

Everything to do with him is all on me and house work,cooking

Feeding,play,bath,get his stuff change nappy

Feels like am single mum and also feels like you have no interest with him at all

When he's play is of cause 'loud'

Being a boy running around

and you can't cope with that

So I have to take home away to other room

I understand you want to sit down and rest after day from work, watching tv quietly

But I don't know how to do it to make babe play quietly?

That's why I take him play in his room.

Someday you back and play with him for 5 mins and that's it you have enough

'Daddy is very tired now'

I know you provide us food etc as you always do but it's hard and hurts for me when with our baby you not help at all,,,,and that's all you say 'am working I have no time, or you go and work then am stay home with him!'

And that is the start of my lack of attention to you.

Am not sleeping the same bed with you because sometimes when I put him to bed and I fall sleep with him but I did say come wake me up if I do so we can spend evening together.

And get up at night for 2-3 times at night is of cause quite tired I never rest in the day like I say babe and house work is double full time job.

And you never get up at night to just go and put his dummy in or if as a father really care for your child would try harder,

I know you say fell lonely because am with baby all the time but I do ask you to take Him with you but you don't really wanted,,,alway some excuse.

This is back since babe was 4months when you first see and spend time with him untill now 2yrs and 4 month.

You tell me you think I don't love you anymore cause I dint sleeping the same bed with you

we do have sex although not very often but just want to say cause the lack of attention to our babe and feel tired all the time,

I still think father or man of the family should do more than earning the money

Am I right?

And this why we feel apart even more..............

Now I just found out that you been secretly texting and calling other women it happen when our son got to your phone and press message that when i know something wrong cause the word is not a normal friend and you arrang to meet up next day when i confront you you say arrange with othe male friend to go out too so i call HER and ask politely that you all arrange to meet up and going out she say NO arrangement she stay home with her kids and friend,so you are lie

but you say nothing is going on between you and her Just friend and she have broke up with her partner and she is very hurtful and she is very very nice person, you keep telling me that she is really nice for quite sometime but I dint even think

Something like this will happen.

Again!

Specially befor Xmas you wanted to go in exeter so much offer your mum to take stuff back, shopping etc, but befor you always hate exeter!!!!!!

Cause she is in exeter !!

You protect her every which way you can.

I only ask if you want to save our marriage just call her and end it say what you want to say and I just listen but NO you are not

Or if you really stop texting and calling her just show the phone bill to prove yourself innocent and

SAVE OUR MARRIAGE

But you don't.

and phone is with you all the time?

So there is still secret??

 

So I say I'll divorce for you and move back to my country with our son and that's when you try make effort to play with our son and now we get on really well

And i feels like normal family now.

BUT the pain and hurt that I have right now is really torn me apart and I can not live like this

I lost the trust on you I don't know I can get that back specially without you to gain this trust back to our marriage.

I don't understand why you acting like nothing never happens talk to me like normal and very happy mood even you know I say we are going.

You eat and sleep well.

So basically you are happy?

Or happy with your new relationship?

So don't care even we are finish.

I am hurtful and feel betray by you and words can't describe that.

I am really stress and you know that I can't even eat for week since this happens.

I will let you go so you not need to hide what you doing anymore.

 

You throw away marriage and all of this and its not fair for our son he is so little and dont know anything.

I wish you are very happy with your new life without having to hide any secrecy from me.

 

The wife........UK

[TaraMaiden]

Show him this thread.

 

And tell him, from me, that he's being a complete jerk, and that if you divorce him and take your baby back to your country it will be the best thing you have ever done, because he is a lying, cheating scumbag.

 

Of course there IS such a thing as an emotional affair.

But maybe he has even taken it further than that.

 

Your husband sounds like a nasty, despicable, lazy, ungrateful, selfish specimen.

 

he is NOT a father.

He has a child, but he has no idea what looking after a child even means.

Tell him to take three days off work and give him the baby to look after.

On his own.

Alone.

 

That will teach him.

 

 

I suggest you file for divorce - see how he likes that....

[mummy]

Thanks Tara

I sit here with my babe and now reading your reply has made

Me cry and realize that he is selfish!

He did provide us send money while am in my country

With our son.

It's long story we haven't got house back then so We decide

That i should stay over there and now just bought a house for only a

month.

 

Feels like am not alone now ,

don't want my babe to see me like this!!