tako Posted January 5, 2013 Share Posted January 5, 2013 (edited) hello guys, i came across with this forum while googling "how to attrackt my proffessor" im 20 years old female student and i like my profesoor, i feel that he likes me too, but i can not understand why he is not doing something more to attract me, he only waits my actions.... he always smiles to me when i meet him, and etc. there are all sighs of flirting from him but nothin more than this..... so guys please write your opinions and help me to make him love me ))) im mad about him.... by the way he is 35 he is single and never had wife in his life <3 :love: Edited January 5, 2013 by tako Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted January 5, 2013 Share Posted January 5, 2013 Being a proffessor, he is probably attrackted to women who are good at spelling. And he would almost certainly be fired if he started something with one of his students, so he probably couldn't act on it even if he were so inclined. I guess you could pass him a note asking about homework for extra credit and see what he has to say. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted January 5, 2013 Share Posted January 5, 2013 Being a proffessor, he is probably attrackted to women who are good at spelling. ^^^^ THIS ^^^^ :laugh::laugh: i feel that he likes me too, but i can not understand why he is not doing something more to attract me Seriously? You are reading into it. He cannot and will not do anything to attract you because you are just another student and - I guarantee this fact - this happens to him every semester a new batch of students arrives; someone gets a crush on him. he always smiles to me when i meet him, and etc. there are all sighs of flirting from him but nothin more than this..... You are imagining the flirting because it is what you want. so guys please write your opinions and help me to make him love me ))) im mad about him.... by the way he is 35 he is single and never had wife in his life <3 :love: Not gonna happen! Here's the truth: Professors - regardless of age - could lose their jobs and get blackballed from their profession if they get involved with students. Only the stupid ones will risk it and usually only with students after they have graduated and there is no risk to their jobs. Give it up. It is all in your head. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
coffeebean201 Posted January 5, 2013 Share Posted January 5, 2013 If you seriously like him, take an interest in the subject matter he teaches and see about helping on his research projects etc. He is a good contact to have. Maybe the rules have changed, but when I was going to university we weren't allowed to date professors. Don't put your love life on hold for this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted January 5, 2013 Share Posted January 5, 2013 (edited) Maybe the rules have changed, but when I was going to university we weren't allowed to date professors. The rules have not changed. Edited January 5, 2013 by CarrieT Link to post Share on other sites
Author tako Posted January 6, 2013 Author Share Posted January 6, 2013 ^^^^ THIS ^^^^ :laugh::laugh: Seriously? You are reading into it. He cannot and will not do anything to attract you because you are just another student and - I guarantee this fact - this happens to him every semester a new batch of students arrives; someone gets a crush on him. You are imagining the flirting because it is what you want. Not gonna happen! Here's the truth: Professors - regardless of age - could lose their jobs and get blackballed from their profession if they get involved with students. Only the stupid ones will risk it and usually only with students after they have graduated and there is no risk to their jobs. Give it up. It is all in your head. yeees i know all this but what if i am the only one he is looking for ?? ))))) :love: and i feel that he want to hae relationship with me but something makes him to stop... so i want to do something ))) and wht about my spelling im a not native american so please dont judge me (( ))) thank you so much for your advices and please helm me )) Link to post Share on other sites
Author tako Posted January 6, 2013 Author Share Posted January 6, 2013 (edited) for sure i do not want him to lose job because of me.... i graduate next year and i think i have enough time to do something ))))))) next week he offered me to write an articles (kind of sciencific articles about the subject i study at university, and said that he will help me... later i said him that i want introduce with him better and get to know him closer, so he said "ok, i will call you" but he did not, when i came next time and ask him why did not he call, he answered that he wanted, but he is too busy (he works for business company after university and very often he has to go abroad, about two times a week) so he smiled and again gave me another hope " i will call you" he said... so just now i want to text him massage to congratulate christmas.... what do you think ??? Edited January 6, 2013 by tako Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 yeees i know all this but what if i am the only one he is looking for ?? Then he will contact you AFTER you have graduated and are not a potential lawsuit or termination to his job. and i feel that he want to hae relationship with me That is because you are projecting it and WANT to believe it is true. If it were true, he would tell you - right? That is what intelligent and interested people do. They don't play games. but something makes him to stop... What stops him is ethics, his job, and - possibly - the fact that it is not true but in your head. so i want to do something You can't. for sure i do not want him to lose job because of me.... Then leave him alone. i graduate next year and i think i have enough time to do something You DO have to do something; leave him alone! later i said him that i want introduce with him better and get to know him closer, so he said "ok, i will call you" but he did not, when i came next time and ask him why did not he call, he answered that he wanted, but he is too busy See? You gave him an opportunity and he did not call. That is a sign you should heed. Leave him alone. so just now i want to text him massage to congratulate christmas.... what do you think ??? As we have all said - and a number of similar threads will same the same thing - LEAVE HIM ALONE. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 Wait until you have graduated, fullstop. And work on your spelling in the meantime, unless you live in a non-English speaking country. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DirtyDancing Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 Well, this happened to me recently. Young, single, attractive professor; me, just a couple years younger than he, older than the other students, same profession as him outside of the school. Major chemistry all semester, but OF COURSE he wasn't going to do anything about it. He only gave me constant smiles, stares, and prolonged conversations after the midterm and final. I knew there was an attraction, and when I turned in my final exam, he gave me the green light to contact him. I waited for the class to be over and two months later, I emailed him. He immediately responded and he set up the time and place for our date. We had an amazing, very romantic date, but he was very very hesitant because he knew I'd still be a student at the university for another year. He wanted to pursue something and we were extremely attracted to each other, but he ultimately chose not to because of his own reputation and risk to his career both at the school and his other high profile job. We kept in contact for many months after, but eventually he lost the feelings because in my opinion, I was a danger to his reputation and career that he works hard for. I suppose he figured that pursuing sex/dating me wasn't worth the risk, and over time, he lost interest because I was forbidden or something. My story's a sad ending, because now, a year and a half after our date, I pass him where we both work sometimes, and EVEN now that I'm a graduate, he chooses to have nothing to do with me. I had strong feelings for him all along, until I saw him in person and we emailed recently and he was as cold as ice and completely businesslike. For some time after, he was warm, caring, and friendly, but now he avoids me on the street and emails me as though I was just some co-worker or acquaintance. My advice to you is, if you're looking for love, it's probably not going to be with your 35 year old professor with you as a young and naive 20 year old (no offense). I was older than the other students at the time, and he told me that he had girls in his class contact him and ask him out, and he always said no. I asked him why he agreed to meet with me, and he said because I had so much more to offer than those young sorority girls. What I'm saying is, a grown man isn't likely to take up a sexual offer from a young girl, that is, if he's smart. If you feel a chemistry, just wait until your class is over and you will no longer have him as your teacher. If he is interested, he'll take you up on your offer to meet, just don't expect much. In my personal experience, he's not going to jeopardize his career and reputation to date his student or even his former student. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Esoteric Elf Posted January 17, 2013 Share Posted January 17, 2013 hello guys, i came across with this forum while googling "how to attrackt my proffessor" im 20 years old female student and i like my profesoor, i feel that he likes me too, but i can not understand why he is not doing something more to attract me, he only waits my actions.... he always smiles to me when i meet him, and etc. there are all sighs of flirting from him but nothin more than this..... so guys please write your opinions and help me to make him love me ))) im mad about him.... by the way he is 35 he is single and never had wife in his life <3 :love: My father was my mother's professor for a class. She thought he was hot the moment she saw him and hoped that she wouldn't be too distracted to concentrate in class. She sent a card to him after she finished his class and...fill in the rest at your leisure. Link to post Share on other sites
DirtyDancing Posted January 17, 2013 Share Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) My father was my mother's professor for a class. She thought he was hot the moment she saw him and hoped that she wouldn't be too distracted to concentrate in class. She sent a card to him after she finished his class and...fill in the rest at your leisure. ahh, this is the love story I thought was gonna happen with my hot prof. Some people get lucky! Edited January 17, 2013 by DirtyDancing Link to post Share on other sites
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