M30USA Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 It seems that, regardless of who is at fault in a marriage, it's ALWAYS the woman who holds the control and decides whether or not to "take him back". You always see the stereotypical woman who takes the kids from her husband out of fear, and perhaps after a while, if she is merciful enough and if he has "changed his ways", she will "take him back". But why do you rarely see it the other way around? Even if a WOMAN is the one who has been abusive to her husband and SHE is clearly at 100% fault, it's STILL the man who has to be on her mercy, and she STILL decides whether or not to "take him back"--as if he's the one who blew it. I'm growing tired of this. Not only did I personally experience it, but I see it all the time. I consider it a pathology of our culture. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 So very, very wrong. It was up to my H whether our marriage was going to get another chance. It was up to him to decide. Link to post Share on other sites
revitup Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 I will assure you that in my case ,the decision lies only with me....the man. And that decision is NO! REVITUP Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 Can you only see the world through the lens of your own particular circumstances? This forum is crawling with women who are hoping and struggling to try to get their boyfriend / husband to take them back. Link to post Share on other sites
health Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 Hoestly, this post screams of generalization. If your not careful you can en4 up resenting the opposite sex. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 Because lots of times it's the man who cheats. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 (edited) Its only because men position themselves in such. I want go into my own personal circumstances ~ because they're were circumstances via my being career military that came into play. (Another day and time for any and all of that!) But per the experience? I can sit here and absolutely guarantee you that I will never ever, beg someone to let me love them ~ be in love with them ~ live with them ~ be in a marriage with me! A woman walks out on me? Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Hell! Its on for real then! There won't be any begging, pleading, imploring, crying! It'll be two tears in a bucket and then a "Mother Tuck It!" It won't be going! It'll be gone! If crying couldn't make her stay? It sure as hell isn't going to make her come back! And who in tha' Hell would want her back anyway? What one will abuse? Another can certainly use! I really don't know who in tha' hell told some women that they've exclusively corned the market on sex, but I can tell you this for damn sure and certain! They lied to them! A woman walks out on you! Says she's going to "cut you off!? She may cut me off from the supply that she has, but last time I checked there's only about 3.5 or 4 billion other women in the world! They come in all shapes, sizes, colors, denominations, nationalities, regions of the country ~ the list is infinite. I don't care how screwed up you are, how big a drunk you are, how weird your sexual whatever ~ thing is? There's a woman out there for you that will fit your bill! Finding her might be a bit of a chore! But she's out there! Especially in this day and age of the inter-net! If your into having sex with dancing grizzly bears in tu-tus and clowns? There's a woman out there for you, (Please don't PM asking where she is ~ I haven't a clue where to begin ~ and frankly I reallly don't want to know!) Ms. Gunny knows that the first time she talks about leaving? Its a freaking done deal! I'm going to get up and start packing either hers or my bags! Someone leaving and there's not going to be any reconciliation, begging, pleading, imploring, none of that! I'm willing to sit here listen, talk, discuss, compromise, change, go to counseling, therapy ~ whatever! (OK, olives are non-negotiable! :mad: DAMNED OLIVES! :mad: Don't ask! :mad: Ms Gunny also knows that once my mind is made up about something? I'm done! With her wants, needs, ~ and by extension her children, my children, and of course the grandbabies ( :love: ) the sky is the beginning not the limit! If I've got to go out and sleep in a hollow log, drink muddy water, wear clothes made out of sack cloth, go bare footed. and eat seven-day old road kill, work three jobs in the dead of winter? So be it! A woman walks out on me? It means one thing and only one thing to me! She's weak-minded! And therefore not worthy of my time nor affection ~ nor anything that I've got to offer and bring to the table! Just that plain! Just that simple! THE hardest job in the military? Is being the spouse of a member of the military. A woman who can keep it together, keep the "home fires' burning, take care of the children, take care of the bills, get the car tuned up, oil changed, get the taxes done, go to parent-teacher conferences, help and get homework done, clean house, wash, dry and fold clothes, change diapers, call base maintenance, deal with Dr's medical appointments, attend boy scout, girl scout meetings, shop for clothes, the house, groceries,...........................all the while her man is overseas fighting and defending this country! That would be Ms. Gunny X 100 and her daughter (Whose husband is a former Marine and career Army) X 1000 with a Speical Needs daughter!) Edited January 6, 2013 by Gunny376 4 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 6, 2013 Share Posted January 6, 2013 Why is it always WOMEN who decide whether or not to "take him back"? It seems that way because those particular men put the woman on a pillar. They are worshiped as a deity rather than related to as a human being. Once the pillar is removed, more balanced interaction ensues. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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