2sunny Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 So - tell me - your W tells you she still loves her OM - and hasn't done HER part in repairing the damage SHE has caused - then pulls a crying bit (manipulation)... And still feeling sorry for herself - YET: You hug her and carry her to comfort HER? What the heck are you doing? You are rewarding HER bad behavior! You should have calmly walked away after stating to her that its simply not good enough! You must have played the caretaker role in your youth - because you act like this is normal - well, it's not normal! And you should be requiring her to face what she's unwilling to face! And IF she intends the M to continue - that SHE gets busy changing EVERYTHING! Especially the way she acts like a selfish brat who's 2 years old! She's a grown woman who manipulates and controls so she doesn't have to care for herself - and treats the one who does her work like crap! Why is that enough for you? Why would you hug her and hold her when you should have been simply saying "it's been over before we said our vows - there's no effort to change from your end you selfish woman - so leave now". Have your counselor work with you on expectations and what a healthy boundary looks like! She's had PLENTY of time to change her perspective = but SHE hasn't! She's just still plain selfish with a sense of entitlement! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Running Man Posted January 27, 2013 Share Posted January 27, 2013 She will probably stay married because she can't get the man she wants but will stay with you because you take care of her and her health issues. Either way your a Plan B health care option. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted January 28, 2013 Share Posted January 28, 2013 She will probably stay married because she can't get the man she wants but will stay with you because you take care of her and her health issues. Either way your a Plan B health care option. I agree. She's had plenty of time to take action and make you feel that you're her priority - but I don't see HER effort to do all that. She should be handing you peace of mind on a silver platter IF she expects the M to improve. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted January 28, 2013 Share Posted January 28, 2013 Once the deadline hits, I'll be shipping off to Texas. Where I will stay for the duration of my training. If you're coming to Brayton Fire Field, let me know and we can go get get a beer. Maybe talk about where your life and marriage are going. Maybe if you heard some of this in person, it might make a difference. Link to post Share on other sites
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