MrCastle Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Just think of it like this--somewhere down the line things will sort themselves out and all the work you're putting in will pay off. Every day is a day closer to that dream becoming reality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 For what reasons would a girl go out with you? What are your attractive qualities? If you can't think of any, you need to develop some. Merely "existing" isn't enough, you have to bring something to the table. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mumbles Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 I don't know where you live but Mexican women are most likely to date dudes your height. They are often in high 4 foot themselves, so you'd have a few inches on them. Actually, I assume you live in Arizona and go to Arizona State, so there are definitely Mexicans there. White women will probably be extremely tough. I was thinking the same. Or ladies of south East Asian descent, they can often by 4.5-5' tall and are often very slight, 38-48KG, so you'll be taller _and_ heavier then them and they'll appreciate that you are toned (not fat) and not 3-4x heavier than they are which is sometimes frightening for the very tiny girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted January 9, 2013 Author Share Posted January 9, 2013 Many of the women I have been attracted to have been taller than me. How do I get a taller girl to overlook my height? Link to post Share on other sites
Mumbles Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Many of the women I have been attracted to have been taller than me. How do I get a taller girl to overlook my height? Well you won't be able to fool anyone - you're just looking for that special girl. For no well explained reason under most of todays circumstances, the idea of men being slightly (or a lot!) older, taller, heavier and probably earning more is just one of those weird carry over cliche things that simply seems to be true nevertheless. But skinny guys go out with big girls, short guys with tall girls, older girls with younger guys, etc, etc, its common enough, but outside the 'average' if you like. For each attribute you "want" that needs one to step outside of the norm or average, you're going to reduce your chances by a power of magnitude. Nothing wrong with that ... don't settle for second best baby, but just be honest and understand how its going to affect your score rate. Ultimately, if you tie yourself in a knot looking for a tall, one-legged, chinese, lady-boy, with green eyes and red hair, your're going to simply end up with no-one. Are you sure your not seeking emotional safety in not being able to find 'the one for me'? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Many of the women I have been attracted to have been taller than me. How do I get a taller girl to overlook my height? Make her get on her knees. Or you can learn to fly. Whatever's easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted January 9, 2013 Author Share Posted January 9, 2013 I am looking for that special someone. Other than dating a taller woman, my expectations do not go outside the norm. I have no problem dating a taller woman, even if she is 6 feet tall. In terms of lloks, all I am asking is a woman who is average or better. Since I take care of myself, I expect her to do the same to herself. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Meh, I'm single and happy. I was happy before I got laid, and after. Wanna know my secret? I don't take any of it so seriously. SunDevil, your problem is that all you can think about is getting a GF. You've got SDS (Some Dude Syndrome). It's going to be difficult to cure that to be honest, especially since you seem to be actually doing hobbies and stuff and trying to get on with life and it's troubling you. Obviously, it doesn't help that you are as short as you are. However, as much as this sucks, you have to be brave. And you have to not take dating too seriously. Be bold with girls. Say what you think, try to learn to be charming. Don't hold back. Once you head towards the other extreme, you will find your way towards a medium, a mode of communicating with women that suits you most. You're only 23! Meaning you haven't made it to 31 like SD81 and I without a GF. Go another 8 years and see if your attitude doesn't change. I was JUST like you! never even tried to ask a girl out until I was 17 and was dumped for being to shy, it destroyed me for a good while. I never really tried again or let it bother me and I promise you it didn't bother me most of the time. It didn't start to bother me until I was about 22-23 then it stopped bothering me for a LONG time. I didn't start trying again until I was 29 when it started to bother me again. Translation: I was a pretty happy guy without a GF for most of my life. Translation: It doesn't phukin matter if you can be happy alone or with someone or really wanting a gf. Like I said befoe people are SO WEAK they can't even be alone after a breakup. The last girl I dated invited me over for Christmas lol! I'm not blind, I know it was about her not wanting to be alone and not abot truly wanting me there. They'll date and have some guy/girl as an emotional tampon to ease their pain. Mabye some people just slip through the cracks?? I've seen every type of person with a gf. Dominant, passive you name it. Anything is a statistical probability so why can't making it throgh life without a gf be one? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted January 9, 2013 Author Share Posted January 9, 2013 During my high school years, not having a girlfriend was not a big deal. Over time, it has gotten worse and worse. The good thing about this is that I have become more social and confident with women. The semester before the last, I asked out 12 girls and got 2 dates. Both were from my class. Last semester, I asked out 30 girls and got no dates, but they were all cold approaches. I am not sure if I can make it to my 30's without a girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted January 9, 2013 Author Share Posted January 9, 2013 Some people told me to stop looking for love, yet I never met a guy who had success using that method. I am activly pursuing girls, yet I am not sure why I am getting no results Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Dont' listen to the "You have to be happy by yourself in order to find someone" BS. Most people can't be alone and would date to ease their pain instead of facing their pain and being alone until they're ready to get back out there. I've been alone my entire life. I made it to 29 being pretty happy even though I have never had a girlfriend. So I guess you could say I was happy alone. It sure didn't help me get a GF though! Now I'm not happy becasue I want a girlfriend. No, you don't have to be happy to find someone else. But it goes a long way in making sure the relationship is healthy and lasts. And you should be happy with yourself regardless. In actuality, the only person you're going to live all day with, truly be with, and die with is yourself. You should really know how to be happy and have fun with that person. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted January 9, 2013 Author Share Posted January 9, 2013 How did you attract girls? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 How did you attract girls? He's Goku and they are attracted to his aura. He can just sit on a bench picking his nose and they all want to play with his hair. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted January 9, 2013 Author Share Posted January 9, 2013 Do you think that it is his personality? Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Some people told me to stop looking for love, yet I never met a guy who had success using that method. I am activly pursuing girls, yet I am not sure why I am getting no results Midget guys get girlfriends and wives and so can you. The only thing is with them, they have conventions and parties where only they get together. That doesn't happen with short guys and short gals, because short gals don't want short guys. So in a way, midgets have it easier than you in dating. But not in their ordinary lives. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted June 3, 2013 Author Share Posted June 3, 2013 Just adding an update. So far, nothing is working. If anything, things are getting worse. I just got 4 rejections this past couple of weeks. It has gotten so bad that I am having difficulties sleeping. I tried everything, but the only cure for my problem is to experience love. I decided that if I am not able to find a girl within the next 2 years, I will take my own life. After college, meeting girls will be impossible since I will be in a career with long hours and virtually no women. I would rather die than be alone. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 I decided that if I am not able to find a girl within the next 2 years, I will take my own life. Please seek help for your suicidal thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted June 3, 2013 Author Share Posted June 3, 2013 Seeking help for suicidal thoughts is not the answer for me. The only thing that will work is if I am able to experience love. I am sick and tired of being alone and without intimacy. The only cure for that is love and intimacy itself. Humans need to experience it to be healthy. Without it, life is not worth it Link to post Share on other sites
Sunshine87 Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Hey, You need to be careful. With this attitude, when you do find a girlfriend, you might resort to self-harm or harm your girlfriend if she decides to leave you. Many people in relationships go through heartbreaks. They get dumped/rejected after investing their emotions, body, finances etc. Can you imagine how painful that is? I can only imagine the kind of pain that you are going through, however this sort of over-dependence can be very dangerous. Like i mentioned, what if you got a girlfriend who dated you for 6 months and dumped you for another guy? Would you resort to harming her? Pls don't commit suicide. Many people "feel" suicidal sometimes but that's different from actually contemplating it seriously or planning to do it. I'm going to ask you a few questions. Do you have any friends? Do you have a job or are you in college? Do you have any family? Do you have any female friends? Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Seeking help for suicidal thoughts is not the answer for me. If you ever get to the point where you think you've tried everything and you're still having suicidal thoughts, please reconsider this. Link to post Share on other sites
SoulJazzBlues Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 I am looking for that special someone. Other than dating a taller woman, my expectations do not go outside the norm. I have no problem dating a taller woman, even if she is 6 feet tall. In terms of lloks, all I am asking is a woman who is average or better. Since I take care of myself, I expect her to do the same to herself. That's where you lose me. Now you state that you are 5feet tall and admit this is a major drawback when attracting women. Yet, your expectations is that you deserve an average or even better woman? Using that logic, those average and better women deserve a tall and attractive man? I mean, who is going to give in. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
daisybuchanan55 Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Sun Devil, you REALLY need to seek help for these thoughts ASAP. Please don't take your own life. These thoughts tell me you are in no place mentally to be asking girls out anyway. These rejections have absolutely nothing to do with your height. It's about your mental state. You are projecting your fears and negativity onto these women and I guarantee they sense it. I understand that human beings need intimacy to be happy. I completely agree. But I also know that people with way worse challenges than you have been able to find love. How do you explain paralyzed people, people with disabilities/deformities etc. finding love? Hell...I just watched a documentary on Netflix about two people with Downs Syndrome falling in love and getting married. There is someone for everyone. The fact that you are counting your rejections also troubles me. If I counted the number of times I've been rejected I would probably be pretty upset too. First and foremost, you need to get with a psychiatrist to address these issues. I honestly suspect 90% of your problems are coming from a combo of your Aspberger's and depression, not your height. Once you get in a better place mentally, I think you need to change your expectations in order to experience love. Have you tried asking out a girl with a mild case of Aspberger's? I think this would be an awesome experiment. What about moving somewhere where no one knows you and where you can start fresh? And I know someone mentioned that "little people" have conventions...I realize you aren't a little person, but I actually don't think it would be a bad idea to try to find one to date. You should do some research. It could be really worth it! Why not just check it out? What's there to lose? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Suave Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Hookups don't really do too much for me anymore. My problem is being addicted to the honeymoon phase of relationships. It truly is the worst drug of all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted June 3, 2013 Author Share Posted June 3, 2013 I don't know where to find a girl with Asperger's. That disease tends to affect mostly men. To SoulJazzBlues, are you saying that my height requires me to settle for an unattractive girl? I take care of myself, why should I settle for someone who does not over something I cant control? Therapy wont help me, only finding love will. Link to post Share on other sites
Xinreeki Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 I don't know where to find a girl with Asperger's. That disease tends to affect mostly men. To SoulJazzBlues, are you saying that my height requires me to settle for an unattractive girl? I take care of myself, why should I settle for someone who does not over something I cant control? Therapy wont help me, only finding love will. But, using the same exact reasoning, there are women out there who can't control how they look without major surgery, there are women with deformities, women who have lost limbs and women who are disabled, why should they settle for less than average looking men just because of something they can't control? At the end of the day, your height, your looks, won't matter to someone who really 'gets' you, to someone who really has a connection with you (emotionally, personality-wise), to someone who is compatible with you on many levels (not just physically!). That is the person you want in your life as your gf. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts