Mel Posted January 18, 1999 Share Posted January 18, 1999 I am in desperate need of help/advice!!! I am a first year student who met what I thought was a true love the second week here. We have had our arguements and disagreements and he always ends up getting things his way!!! By this I mean that when he says he wants space, i give in, when he says that he's busy(even though he's not)... i get mad but then end up giving in to save a fight When I went home for Christmas holidays, my dad informed me that he was just diagnosed with cancer and that he was dying... out of trust, i told my boyfriend and I cried and ever since then things haven't been the same!!! he was acting real strange like all he wanted me around for was sex and that he couldn't care less how much time he spent with me, even though he knew i was hurting about my dad. He broke up with me about week ago after being together for 4 months and I am completely devaststed!!! I miss him so much and I don't understand why! He said that he wanted us to be friends for now so we could get to know eachother better but so far all he does is avoid me!!! I try to talk to him but he won't call and when he sees me he stares at me as if he wants to say some thing but then just turns and walks away. I don't know what to do because when I needed him most he turned his back on me and not only do I have to deal with the fact that my dad is dying but I also have to deal with school pressures and thinking about what went wrong with us. I am really upset and don't know what to do - please help!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Quimono Posted January 18, 1999 Share Posted January 18, 1999 dear mel, your ex-bf is not worth it, during this time you must try to concentrate on your dad. spend more time with him cause he just got a little time left in this world. i know what you feel about your ex-bf but don't worry time will heal all your pain and sufferings. your ex-bf just used you, he is NOT WORTH IT!!!!.........just remember to spend time with your dad and don't forget to tell him that you love him very much, it will mean a lot to him.....good luck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Cookie Posted January 18, 1999 Share Posted January 18, 1999 This so called ex of yours is a selfish jerk who does not care for you. I know it sounds awful but that's what it seems like. My suggestion is to totally blow him off and never try to see him again. He does not deserve a caring person like you and you are much more worth anything he could ever imagine. Don't even be his friend! This time is crucial for you and your dad and I think you should just concectrate on all the time and love you can give him. I'm sorry that things are all messed up right now but please do realize that your family is more important now. Link to post Share on other sites
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