skittles66 Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 My boyfriend and his ex Hav daughter together. So I get they hv to talk and that he goes over to her house to see his daughter. My problem is they still text even when it is not about his daughter. They send pics back and forth. He even goes over there and doesn't tell me about it. When I asked him to stop texting her he said he would text when he wanted and about whatever he wanted. This morning while he was in the shower I checked his phone and he had sent a text telling her she looked really good. Also saw a text from saying that if he keeps hugging and kissing her that he was gonna have to go back home to her. How do I confront him about it without letting him know I checked his phone? Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Why bother confronting him? You already know he won't stop, he told you he won't stop. So you can either put up with it and be miserable or you can have some self-respect, some pride, and leave a man who obviously has inappropriate interactions with another woman!!! This is very cut and dry! How long have you even been together? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author skittles66 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Share Posted January 9, 2013 We have been together two yrs. And I normally don't check his just when I get a feeling in my stomach and I usually find something. I love him which is the only reason I haven't left. Link to post Share on other sites
NoMagicBullet Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 I'm sorry, skittles, but love isn't enough to make relationship work. He's obviously still holding a torch for his ex, and because they have a kid, he will always be in contact. He would have to want to change, and he's already told you he won't. Believe that. Don't bother confronting him, just leave. If he asks why, say "You're not over your ex." And leave it at that. Link to post Share on other sites
Sporty Girl Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 He obviously is still having sex with his ex, and they still love each other. How can you stay with somebody like that? They have a kid together and they always will be connected no matter what. They always say baby drama, and it's right for sure. I don't know if you have any kids, but try dating a man that does not have any baggage. I am married to a man that never had any kids neither do I and it is so much better. I have dated men that have kids before and they always went running back to their ex. Think about it is it worth it? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Who cares if you love him? he is treating you like s.hit, like 2nd place. I love my boyfriend too but if he is texting another woman about KISSING HER!!! and going BACK to her!!! then he GETS THE BOOT! Hello? He's cheating on you, you know it, so what part is okay? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author skittles66 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Share Posted January 10, 2013 He didn't say anything bout going back to her she said it. The message was from her it said ( if u keep kissing and hugging me like that u r gonna have to come back home). He didn't respond to it. I do not have any kids. I really wanted to try and work things out but I don't know anymore. Thank everyone for there help and opinion Link to post Share on other sites
GSB81 Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 He doesn't care that it bothers you. That speaks volumes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author skittles66 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Share Posted January 10, 2013 He didn't say anything bout going back to her she said it. The message was from her it said ( if u keep kissing and hugging me like that u r gonna have to come back home). He didn't respond to it. I do not have any kids. I really wanted to try and work things out but I don't know anymore. Thank everyone for there help and opinion Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 He didn't say anything bout going back to her she said it. The message was from her it said ( if u keep kissing and hugging me like that u r gonna have to come back home). He didn't respond to it. I do not have any kids. I really wanted to try and work things out but I don't know anymore. Thank everyone for there help and opinion So you KNOW your boyfriend is kissing and hugging his ex. So why do you want to stay with a cheater? The ONLY way for this relationship to work is for him to go complete "no contact" with his ex, and he already said he won't do that. Link to post Share on other sites
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