Your advice, or im stayin in the bucket

[steve3536]

ok ill make it short and sweet.....just like me(",)

I was with a girl for 3 years and knew her for nearly a year b4 we started goin out.

I havent really seen much of her till lately. It was my birthday yesterday, so she rang and asked if i wanted to do somthing, so we ended up goin to the cinema and a drink after. im 22 now and shes 19. so any who, the US topic came up!!! oh god.... i know!!! The thing is she asked if i i still LIKED her and told her that i did straight out, but also lied by telling her im cool with bein friends. Of course im not, i hate it. Im there with these feeling ive had for a year now and she tells me she has them too, but doesnt EXACTLY feel the same way. She said she still has feelings but doesnt want to ruin it by getting back into a relationship!! I mean i really connect with this girl, she is the only one who still to this day can turn a bad day for me into a good one just by smiling and touching my cheek and saying "it`ll be o.k"

 

The thing is her parents have recently broke up and getting a divorce. So she prob has some issues with men being the same. So any way, even though she said she wants to b friends, the whole way through the movie she held my hand... cuddled into me...and even kissed once ..o.k maybe seven times. now i may b a lad and not cop on to things quickly but FRIENDS DONT DO THAT !!! Do they???

But here`s where it hurt last nite,

we went home, she cried about her parents, told me she only wants to be friends. I said theres no chance of us gettin back together, Is there? She said theres always a chance.

So i basically feel like stickin my head in a metal bucket and beating it with a spoon! Is the parent issue totally messing her up?? i took it really bad when we broke up last year, so ivè come a long way by trying to see the bright side of every situation, always carrying a smile. and im really trying not to get FALSE HOPES now after lastnite. She wants to meet up on saturday and do somthing, so the point of this thread is ... How the Hell do i act on the day?? what do i do, what do i say?? Should i Play the friend thing for a while and wait until she innitialises everything??

 

Is there any chance if i play the friend thing, it will re-kindle her old feelings? or does she really want to b Just friends?

I really appreciate onyone who takes time out to read and/or reply to this and give me some guidance!!!!

But fact of the matter is when i see her saturday my smile will grow bigger, and my heart will prob mostly likely skip a beat,

 

sincerely Stephen.

[echo419]

Only thing I can say is take it slow and go with the flow. If this is what you really want---and thats what it appears like to me---Let her make the moves and just follow her lead.

 

 

Just my opinion of course.