smile95 Posted August 19, 2004 Share Posted August 19, 2004 I read so much about OW/OM in relationships. I entered one under the impression that divorce was soon, as he was already separated for 6 months prior to us meeting.....well, 2 yrs later, he is still only sep and I am an emotional mess. I love him so much and he promised me the world and now he has shut me out,as the divorce is reaching the end. He is scared of losing everything and somehoe thinks we should not talk. It is so hard and makes me doubt all that was promised to me. I feel fooled. Not only this, it is a LDR. I just want to tell anyone thinking of starting a realtionship with a OW/OM it is a long road. I thought it would be worth it and put my life on hold for him and now when we finally come to the period where it is happening, he shuts me out. I know it is a tough time, but I want to help him through it. He will not speak to anyone. I am told he feels embarrassed and ashamed and feels like he is a failure. I f I could go back, I would have said..."call me when you are divorced". SO FRUSTRATING!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Quilly Posted August 20, 2004 Share Posted August 20, 2004 beth5201, I feel what you're saying... as always, hindsight is 20/20. Even so, I don't know that I would give up what I have had and what I have learned from my MM. Yes, it is frustrating and heartbreaking to want to be with him and realize that it might never happen... but I can't imagine where I would be today without his influence in my life. Everyone must live and learn for themselves. Thank goodness for resources like this forum that provides us opportunities to vent and seek support and guidance. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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