Loaning money to friends

[Stone]

All of my friends in florida are suffering from Hurricane Charlie and I have been very Genouious in giving my assistance with Cash, food, supplies and a hot meal. because the power was restored at my home before many others. Anyways to the point.

 

I gave my friend money because she lost her job and now she is kissing my butt, witch I dont expect at all, but in the last 1-2 years she has stayed distant from me and constantly ditched me and kept her children away from my child. When I asked her why she stopped contacting me she said that she has just been so busy

she stopped thinking about everybody else and she was sorry. I can understand that but a part of me thinks she is being my friend so I will help her and her children. I don't expect to be repaid but I don't wan't a fake friendship in the meantime. I don't know if I should just let it go or express my feelings again.

 

Another friend I lent money to won't return my calls or didn't offer to babysit for me so I could go to work this week. ( daycares/schools are closed) I feel like everybody is taking advantage of me.

[faux]

I do not lend money to my friends unless they have a steady job and can pay me back very soon. I also try not to go all out being nice to people, unless I am certain they would do the same for me had I need of something. It's very tricky, but I learned the hard way that helping others in these ways can tend to cause more problems than I need to deal with. I put myself first these days, and I don't feel bad about it.

 

If someone's earned my trust and respect, sure I'll do things for them. I won't lift much of a finger for people until that happens, however.

 

A few weeks ago I went to get some fast food with a friend, and he had no money. He kept looking at me when I was buying food. I looked back at him and said, "Well, you had twenty dollars a few days ago, but you had to go spend it all on cigarettes and beer. Maybe food was more important.", then bought my OWN food. Not long before I asked IF he had enough money to put two dollars toward something I was ordering at a restaurant, and he freaked.

 

I wouldn't want to help someone out if I wasn't sure that person was absolutely sincere and would help ME out down the line, without hesitation.

[honey2005]

I am like the exact opposite of faux. I would do anything I could to help a friend, after all, that is what friends are for. Even if they don't have a steady job, I'll give them what I can to help them out. They are my friends and if I couldn't trust them not to use me, they wouldn't be my friends. Sometimes I will do things for people I don't even know.

 

I think what you're doing is really nice. You're giving to people when they need help and when you know you probably won't get anything in return. I think the world would be a much better place if more people would think and act like that. It shouldn't always be about what you will be getting in return, whether it be your money back or even appreciation.

[Mr Spock]

I wouldn't borrow money from friends, and I wouldn't lend it (unless they needed cab fare)

 

One sure way to f*ck up a friendship. Live, and learn.