lovelost Posted August 20, 2004 Share Posted August 20, 2004 he was my boss. i was his assistant. we found refuge from our bad relationships with each other. I left my bad one - he stayed in his, we continued to see other. Of course as time would have it she began to suspect something and after months of badgering him he admitted that we were having sex. She tormented him from that point forward. That's when i realized that how much of a punk he was and how 'by the balls' she really got him. she made him call my house to tell me that what we had was just sex and that he loves her. he would come into work and apologize for the drama and stupid me even though i'd be upset eventually i'd get over it and we'd go back to doing what we do. He found another job, but we kept in contact. He'd call me and we'd converse about our lives, at times we'd go out to lunch - he even spent my birthday with me - took me out and managed to spend the night. all that to say we were developing a bond that i knew would take us no where. When i expressed that we were going in a direction that would only wind up hurting us both - but me especially - he asked me to be patient with him as he was getting his apartment and was leaving - yadda yadda yadda. Long story short - his girl found out we were still communicating by a text nessage i sent to his personal cell phone (asking him about a situation at his job) that she so happen to have in her possession. I began to piece together that it may be his phone by bill but its her phone by usage (he told me that it was his phone and she had it without him knowing), then he said she found out that the number that was text to the phone was mine - how the hell did she find out unless he told her! So he attempted to come to my job with her and asked me to come down - he alerted me that she was with him - and i asked why would he do that and said that i will not have a confrontation at my job with his girlfriend! What in his right mind could have made him do that? was he secretly wishing for a fight to ensue? i told him to handle that and to leave me out of his fights. i didn't want to think that he was that whipped that she could make him do anything she says. but the writing is on the wall. what a sad sad day. Link to post Share on other sites
rogueless Posted August 20, 2004 Share Posted August 20, 2004 Some men like the idea of two women fighting over them. I think you are right. Sounds like he wants the drama. Link to post Share on other sites
kellydontwanttasleep Posted August 20, 2004 Share Posted August 20, 2004 this is just a bad relationship get out of it Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovelost Posted August 20, 2004 Author Share Posted August 20, 2004 I asked him today why would he do that. he said she wanted him to call me and ask me to come downstarirs but to not tell me that she was with him. So he calls himself doing me a favor by saying that she was there - but why would he even agree to call me in the first place??? or even come near my job?? this action confused me. i know for sure he is a wimpster but this one threw me for a loop. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted August 25, 2004 Share Posted August 25, 2004 Yeah, he's a "wimpster" and you're the woman who's hung up on a wimpster. Why "manshare" when there are so many men out there available for 1:1 relationships???? Tell me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovelost Posted September 3, 2004 Author Share Posted September 3, 2004 There's no "manshare" here. I had no expectations - we came together at the height our (my) relationship issues, but as soon as I resolved my problems I cooled down from being with him. We continued to hang off and on but I made it abundantly clear that i didnt want to continue in the direction we were going because i recognize it was a dead end situation. Working with him and having to see him everyday made it hard to completely separate myself - but i realized in order for this to work I had to stop entertaining the convos, not talk about anything personal etc etc...i made those changes and am continuously re-inforcing my decision whenever the opportunity to do so rises. So I am not "hung" on this man for anything - just not as nice as i use to be. Link to post Share on other sites
lumbartransfer Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. he is attempting to maintain his relationship with his original woman. he tells her just enough to keep her. you will always be second best in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
Honesty Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 So what's going on, are you still with him after that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovelost Posted September 11, 2004 Author Share Posted September 11, 2004 Its over! I knew it wasnt going no where. I'm done wasting my time. Link to post Share on other sites
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