Lived out fantasy. Now issues

[shalisha42]

I don't believe I asked for advice about that night. I believe I asked for advice about a few lingering feelings and more specifically whether or not to tell my friend.

 

 

 

That is a great amateur, very amateur observation made from a few posts on an internet forum. Fortunately I know him a fair bit better than you and while you may think you know him I actually do.

 

 

 

Thank you. I believe we do too, we are very much in love and don't take misunderstandings (however big) and turn them into some monsterous case of rage.

 

After this post, I'm not going to bother to respond. Your ignorance and denial astound me and it's a complete waste of my time.

 

Amatuer observation? Actually, I ran this by several people - even my police friends. Boy are you in denial.

 

You were asking for advice - you can't separate the 2 issues. One stemmed from the other. Continue to live in your denial Ms. Leo - continue with your vanity and pride.

[dreamingoftigers]

Don't tell your friend.

 

You obviously opened a very dark and blurry door here.

 

Leave it where it should have stayed. In your bedroom, between you and your husband.

 

I see why this has triggered such a reaction but honestly I can see why in a sense it's just like, "oh okay, well we shouldn't have done that, duh!"

 

I don't think your husband was trying to do something to hurt or degrade you. Honestly it sounds like he was trying to be a little too cool about your fantasy and make it come true. In a GOOD way.

 

But obviously FANTASY does not EQUAL reality. And damn was that an awkward realization!

[shalisha42]

Don't tell your friend.

 

You obviously opened a very dark and blurry door here.

 

Leave it where it should have stayed. In your bedroom, between you and your husband.

 

I see why this has triggered such a reaction but honestly I can see why in a sense it's just like, "oh okay, well we shouldn't have done that, duh!"

 

I don't think your husband was trying to do something to hurt or degrade you. Honestly it sounds like he was trying to be a little too cool about your fantasy and make it come true. In a GOOD way.

 

But obviously FANTASY does not EQUAL reality. And damn was that an awkward realization!

 

I totally agree with you: "But obviously FANTASY does not EQUAL reality."

 

I don't see how he could have misconstrued it. There's fantasy and then there's reality. This guy is clueless. You think he would ask his wife if he could bring a guy home to stick his cock in his wife before actually doing it? Double duh.

[jennytheleo]

After this post, I'm not going to bother to respond.

 

No problem. Thanks for your input so far. Maybe our paths will cross in another thread sometime?

[dreamingoftigers]

Honestly. Did the neighbour know that it was a "surprise?"

 

Because that's the part that strikes me as very very odd.

 

How does one go up to one's neighbour and say "Hey, Phil. I see you're painting that fence there. Can you keep a little secret for me, the wife's got this fantasy and I was kind of wondering if you'd like to grab a beer and surprise her when she's blindfolded. Saturday work for you?"

 

But then again, I've heard guys talk on the night shift when they don't notice or care that you are listening. I guess anything is possible.

[shalisha42]

Honestly. Did the neighbour know that it was a "surprise?"

 

Because that's the part that strikes me as very very odd.

 

How does one go up to one's neighbour and say "Hey, Phil. I see you're painting that fence there. Can you keep a little secret for me, the wife's got this fantasy and I was kind of wondering if you'd like to grab a beer and surprise her when she's blindfolded. Saturday work for you?"

 

But then again, I've heard guys talk on the night shift when they don't notice or care that you are listening. I guess anything is possible.

 

 

OMG! LMAO!! Your sarcasm is too much! Tee hee!

[BetrayedH]

Eh, I think it was a misunderstanding. A submissive doesn't want to be asked for permission. That's why he didn't ask. She wants to be put in her place and told how it is going to be. In this case, she told him she wanted it and if she says it was believable, I believe her. He was following through. Oops. I'm glad the OP is mature enough to take equal responsibility.

[travelbug1996]

Eh, I think it was a misunderstanding. A submissive doesn't want to be asked for permission. That's why he didn't ask. She wants to be put in her place and told how it is going to be. In this case, she told him she wanted it and if she says it was believable, I believe her. He was following through. Oops. I'm glad the OP is mature enough to take equal responsibility.

 

 

Right. That's why I think the OP's more concerned with telling the "friend". I think you liked it you want it to happen again. Now you just want to do it in a way where you don't lose your friend. Do you what you like.