BoldAsLove Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 My boyfriend (23) and I (21) have been dating for over 2 years. He has had I think 5 girlfriends before me. Only one of them was long-term, lasting 1.5 years. The rest were middle school/high school relationships that he doesn't count. He is my first boyfriend and I have never so much as even kissed a guy before him... I get really upset with his past sexual relationships. I understand that they were in the past and there's nothing he can do about it, but it still hurts me. I just can't handle knowing that he's been with other girls. He has only been with 2 other girls, so it's not a lot... I've talked to him about it, written it all out on paper, talked to friends... but nothing seems to work in making me get past it. My boyfriend tells me he loves me and only me, that he has never felt so strongly about any other girl before me, and that he would trade all his girlfriends/sexual experiences in exchange for having me as his first everything... He said that the only special times were with me. He told me that even though I'm not his first, he hopes that I will be able to stay with him to be his last. He says he never ever thinks about his past, never compares me to others. I know he loves me and he has been nothing but faithful and loving to me these past 2 years. Yet I've always yelled, screamed, cried, and said mean things to him whenever the sex topic got brought up. I want to get over his past and I want to have a happy, healthy relationship with him but I just don't know how to let it go. How important is sex? Does it matter that he's had sex in the past? How do I let go? Please help, Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted January 12, 2013 Share Posted January 12, 2013 If you dump him, you will meet other men who have sexual histories. Maybe you will meet a virgin but he may decide YOUR sexual past is unacceptable. See how that works? Tell the boyfriend that you want to have all sorts of sex in all sorts of different places than he had with any other women. Link to post Share on other sites
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