Alsuna Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 This looks like a small thing, but it is bothering me a lot. I went completely NC with ex exactly a week ago, the day of the BU. No email,text, unsubscribed from him on FB, removed from Skype, hid in Gtalk. Out of sight, out of mind. I also unsubscribed from ex's mom on FB, as she was always posting pictures that reminded me of the time, I'v been together with my ex. Now here is the deal: I moved on with my life. Heartbroken, but I try to live as normally as possible. Getting myself some extra treats, to feel a bit better. Shopping, eating out, going places I always wanted to, but had no time while being with my ex. I keep posting these on FB, as usual, so my family and friends can take part in my life too.(I live 2000 km away from them). Now, my ex and his mother started to keep liking my posts 2 days ago on FB. No comments, only liking. I'm sure it's not a sign for anything, it's probably pity from the mom's side, and guilt from my ex's side. Or they are just simply happy that I'm doing ok. But every time I see them liking my stuff, it makes my heart ache again, and I get upset. I want them to leave me alone for a while. We ended a more than 6 years relationship, I'm still trying to deal with the whole situation, and rearranging my life. My question is, how can I avoid them liking my stuff? I guess if I block them,they can notice that I blocked them. I would block my ex temporary, but I don't want to be rude to the mom. I like her, respect her, she is a good woman. Any technical help, or any other ideas, how I could stop them from "caring"/"showing interest"? Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 BLOCK THEM! Who cares what they think. It isn't rude to take charge of you healing and recovery. I think that the fact that you got dumped and have a broken heart takes precedence over appearing rude. They are not in your life anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 Delete them! His mom is part of your past, who cares that she is a wonderful woman? As a grown woman, surely she understands the need to move on. Youre not gonna get out of this as besties with your exes mom...she will eventually be just another person in your past, so why not just do it now? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 I'm not sure if this will work but I've tried a few ways to block certain people. In your Privacy settings, "Who can see my posts", then hit edit. Pull down menu, hit "Custom". You can then list the people you choose not to share your future posts with. In any case, I would just block. His mother should be wise enough to know that you need peace to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 I would kindly send them both a message that you have to remove them from your friends list for the meanwhile. saying something like "I would like to stay friends, but right now, it's best for me to move forward without constant reminders. I sure we can reconnect on FB down the line when it's not so fresh .. thanks for understanding. " It's only going to get harder when your ex starts posting pics with his new GF. you maybe unsubscribed, but you will be checking on his page if you have access to it. do yourself a favour and get out of this politely now and save the hassle. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alsuna Posted January 11, 2013 Author Share Posted January 11, 2013 Now one of his friends is doing the same, liking my stuff. I possibly can't block half of our mutual friends. I will make a list of people, and try what geegirl suggested. Lets see if I can edit, who can see my posts. I really don't need any pity from these people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alsuna Posted January 11, 2013 Author Share Posted January 11, 2013 and just got a text message from his father asking me how i am doing. soon i start to think, my ex didnt tell anyone he broke up with me. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 Reply: "Well, considering your son ripped my heart out and shredded it, not too bad. Excuse me, but I am going to have to lay low for a while. Please ask your family to not contact me. The wound your son left is still raw and painful, and I am finding it hard to face you all, because you are a constant reminder of a man I loved. Forgive me, but I cannot keep in touch with you for now. Maybe later when I feel better." Post. Block all. Done. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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