dexter8 Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 I'm a college student who was in a relationship for 1.5 years and broke it up 4 months ago for several reasons. One of them being that she was going to study abroad and I wasn't going to see her for 9 months and I couldn't take it. I forced a NC. I didn't want to do this, but I felt like I had to. The plan was that she was going to study in country X for a year. First semester in city A and second in city B. And I was going to study abroad in city B with her. Now I'm in city B, but she decided to stay in city A. I emailed her in a mature manner and everything went well. I then asked her if we could skype. She said she feels uncomfortable doing that so she declined. I told her that I was wrong for breaking up and I want to give her a better, more loving relationship. She said she's currently in a happy and healthy relationship. And she doesn't think that we had a healthy relationship for a long time, and being away from it has given her a better perspective on it. She doesn't think it is something that will ever work out and feels it is best for both of us to move on. Everyone says to move on, but my love for her is too strong to move on. So please don't tell me to move on. It hurts me to think about it. I would do ANYTHING to earn her heart back. I literally mean it. Even if it's something that sounds crazy. I'll do it. I'm thinking of going across the country to see her. Should I get her something like a promise ring, set up a dinner? What can I do to make her want me? Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 Fly over and win her back. Just buy the ticket now and go to her! Link to post Share on other sites
Author dexter8 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 Fly over and win her back. Just buy the ticket now and go to her! What else should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 What else should I do? That's a pretty big thing to do man so get to it. That's your shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dexter8 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 That's a pretty big thing to do man so get to it. That's your shot. Have you ever done something like this even when she's going out with another guy and said that it's going better than our relationship was? Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 Have you ever done something like this even when she's going out with another guy and said that it's going better than our relationship was? Of course I've never done anything like this but I saw it in a movie once and this is what you need to do if you want to win her back. You can't do it through txting or emails. You have to get out there and get in her face and win her back. I mean if it were me I'd just move on, but you said not to tell you that. Also if I didn't want to move on, this is what I would do. I'd fly out there or drive or how ever it is you get to this country and I'd do it ASAP and I'd win her back. Dude theres no way she'd be able to ignore you. She'd probably be pretty taken aback. You could say something like "your new guy wouldn't do this for you, now lets be together." Link to post Share on other sites
Author dexter8 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 And she says she's happy. It'll be selfish of me Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 And she says she's happy. It'll be selfish of me She's not really happy she just said that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dexter8 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 Of course I've never done anything like this but I saw it in a movie once and this is what you need to do if you want to win her back. You can't do it through txting or emails. You have to get out there and get in her face and win her back. I mean if it were me I'd just move on, but you said not to tell you that. Also if I didn't want to move on, this is what I would do. I'd fly out there or drive or how ever it is you get to this country and I'd do it ASAP and I'd win her back. Dude theres no way she'd be able to ignore you. She'd probably be pretty taken aback. You could say something like "your new guy wouldn't do this for you, now lets be together." Okay. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 Okay. Thank you No problem man just go book the flight now before you lose the nerve. Put it on a credit card if you don't have the money. Sign up for a credit card if you don't have one. Fly out Monday or Tomorrow. You have to act now while you have the nerve. Don't take no for an answer. Dude she is going to be blown away to see how far you've gone. You'll be the only guy she can see. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dexter8 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 Another thing... What if I find her with her bf. How do I handle that situation? I would ideally like to spend a day with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 Another thing... What if I find her with her bf. How do I handle that situation? I would ideally like to spend a day with her. You just ignore him and speak to her. Say something like "come I need to speak to you alone" don't even acknowledge him. She will want to speak to you I mean you just traveled for her. It will piss the other guy off he might tell her not to but believe me she'll want to hear what you have to say. Totally just tell her to stop talking to him and that it's just you and her now. Dude nothing this romantic has happened to this girl before or any girls she knows. She's going to be overwhelmed in the good way. Fck the other guy he's some loser who just gets to be with her because of being close in distance. You're making sht happen here. That impresses girls a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dexter8 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 I won't be able to see her for another 7-8 months in person. Should I give her something special like a promise ring so she can remember? Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 I won't be able to see her for another 7-8 months in person. Should I give her something special like a promise ring so she can remember? Go to Tiffany's and get the silver key with silver chain. It will cost $250.00 you can give it to her in the Tiffany's box in person and tell her some kind of thing like this represents the key to your heart and you want her to hold it for you and know that you'll be together again always. Some kind of thing about how that represents your love. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dexter8 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 Go to Tiffany's and get the silver key with silver chain. It will cost $250.00 you can give it to her in the Tiffany's box in person and tell her some kind of thing like this represents the key to your heart and you want her to hold it for you and know that you'll be together again always. Some kind of thing about how that represents your love. Thank you so much NightSky. You've been so much help! I will leave tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 Thank you so much NightSky. You've been so much help! I will leave tomorrow. Good luck on your journey. Be tough and get your girl! Link to post Share on other sites
Author dexter8 Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 I saw it in a movie once What's the name of the movie? Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 I can't remember. Just watch the Note Book if you never have. Link to post Share on other sites
whyendedthisway Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 dexter8 wish you good luck,and tell us when you arrive. Link to post Share on other sites
HARPER100 Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 How do you think this is going to end? She's told you she doesn't want to be with you and that she's in a happy relationship. She wasn't comfortable talking to you on Skype - how do you think she'll feel when you turn up in the flesh? If you ABSOLUTELY HAVE to do this then good luck. Just thought someone should give you another perspective, even if it's not one you wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 See a doctor and talk about you inability to escape preoccupation with a FORMER girl friend who HAS MOVED ON to another relationship. You need to learn about boundaries and how to discipline yourself to accept that you don't get to control your partners in relationships. Whatever you do, don't go after someone who has told you your relationship is over and that it was an unhealthy one. You only will seem like a disturbed stalker nut. And you will be. Medicine for me post heartbreak was like putting a pair of eyeglasses on my heart and mind--I was able to "see" the fine lines and accept them whereas I couldn't do this with my own natural chemistry. Look into it for a while. It may be the key to making critical life directional choices in better directions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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