Accidentally hung out with ex. I'd really appreciate some input.

[Javabear]

I haven't spoken to my ex in over a month and we've been broken up for a little over three months after a three year relationship. We're 21 and 22 years old. My other posts have more details but basically he left me for a number of reasons but his main issue was that he had a crush on someone else/grass is greener kind of thing. However, the other girl apparently wasn't all that interested in being his girlfriend and they are not and never were together.

 

Anyway, I went to a basketball game at my school tonight. I was supposed to go with some friends but they ended up not coming so I decided to just go anyway because I have a good friend on the team. So, I'm sitting there and I look over and my ex is sitting by himself a few rows in front of me. I wasn't going to say anything but then I figured that he would probably see me eventually so I texted him about the game, watched him read it and smile and then look for me. He came over and asked if he could sit with me.

 

We ended up talking and laughing for the entire last half of the game just catching up on each other's lives and what our plans are for after graduation this June. It was as if the breakup had never happened. But then the game ended and he left while I hung back to wait for my friend on the team. He wished me good luck with the rest of the quarter and said maybe we'd see each other at another game sometime.

 

I was doing really well these past few months with accepting the breakup and moving on. I always thought that I wanted to marry this guy and I still love him, but I was prepared to never see him again. It's like the universe is playing some cruel trick on me. Right when I was FINALLY starting to feel somewhat back to normal we end up alone in the same place at the same time.

 

So now what? Does it seem like this might possibly be moving towards some sort of reconciliation? I know I'm going to have to think long and hard about taking him back after what happened should the occasion arise and he would definitely have to earn it, but I believe in second chances (if they're deserved) and I'd really like the opportunity to see if we could work things out.

[HARPER100]

What makes you think this could be the start of a reconciliation? From your post it just sounds like he was being polite.

 

In my opinion unless HE gets in touch with you there is nothing to consider. Just carry on with your life and forget about him.

 

P.s. Not sure you can blame the universe - you could easily have ignored him or left the game if you were serious about moving on!

[Javabear]

I guess I was just being hopeful. Oh well.

[Lone]

What makes you think this could be the start of a reconciliation? From your post it just sounds like he was being polite.

 

In my opinion unless HE gets in touch with you there is nothing to consider. Just carry on with your life and forget about him.

 

P.s. Not sure you can blame the universe - you could easily have ignored him or left the game if you were serious about moving on!

If you are gonna 'run' into him again - make sure you look hot as f.

be a bit indifferent. make him work for the interaction.

 

i dunno man. like they say. u gotta wait for him to make the move. if he does then great. if not well your better off.

 

i know. it sucks. where's cupid when u need him right?

[Javabear]

Thanks for the advice. I know that these kinds of situations are all about patience. If it's meant to be, it will be... right?

[lovepugs86]

IF he wants to reconcile with you, he will contact you. He needs to make the effort from now on, not you. And yes, if you two are truly meant to be together, you will end up together someday.