toooverwhelmed Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 I suspected for a while that someone was different in our 3 year-old relationship but didn't know what it. All of the sudden he wasn't in the mood to get intimate with me, had to often stayed till 11 PM doing double work shift and his normal schedule is from 12-8 PM, would get moody if I questioned him about his obvious changes and sometimes would not say ''I love you''. Even so, I decided to ignored it since I didn't find anything that would indicate an affair. Fastforward: We got drunk last week and it turned into an argument quickly. While arguing he blurts ''So maybe I did cheated and have been doing it for the past 3 months''. Needless to say I was shocked and didn't stay with him but headed home. When confronting him about what he said, he claims to hardly recalled anything about the argument. He keeps denying ever cheating, that he gets like when drunk and insist on not remembering saying that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toooverwhelmed Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 As much as I wouldn't like to believe he cheated, I'm more convinced he did than he didn't. Why would someone say those things if it wasn't true? This is what gets me. He would never have confessed this on his own and only did it because he was drunk. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 Welcome to LS Is he an alcoholic? I ask because alcoholics often forget their actions/words when under the influence. His change in routine and interest in intimacy, both sexual and emotional, are canaries. If you're living together, I'd start working on PlanB in case things go sideways. I'd also suggest refraining from having unprotected sex if that is an issue. Better safer than sorrier. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Balzac Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 HaHa spoken like a smart guy. Not saying I agree. The man code is never admit, even in the face of credible evidence. You knew what was up, you know what you need to do. Link to post Share on other sites
LucieLocket Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 sounds like he did. drunk can make people tell the truth as ive experienced in the past. i tried to record my ex when he was drunk and confront him about it. when he heard his voice he admitted. but it wasnt about cheating something else. but it worked. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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