Friendless-Virgin Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Men have one demand, be skinny, if she isn't skinny she can lose weight. Women have more demands than I could possibly know, here are some. Be very attractive OR have friends. Don't be bald. Don't be short. Getting friends is not 100% impossible, but hard if you are socially handicapped. Like having obesity genes. But being short or bald can not be helped. Why are women so picky? No wonder they get married late now, cause they where looking for mr Perfect.
DanF Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Men have one demand, be skinny, if she isn't skinny she can lose weight. Women have more demands than I could possibly know, here are some. Be very attractive OR have friends. Don't be bald. Don't be short. Getting friends is not 100% impossible, but hard if you are socially handicapped. Like having obesity genes. But being short or bald can not be helped. Why are women so picky? No wonder they get married late now, cause they where looking for mr Perfect. Because so many girls have been told that they are perfect no matter what and they all deserve the best and if he isn't the absolute perfect man, move on. Read Married Man Sex Life and get a real perspective on this. 3
TheZebra Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 That might be the only requirement YOU have become you're desperate, but I can assure you the men I know have many more requirements... if what you posted was true, no woman would ever post a 'is he interested in me?' thread. You don't deserve a woman just for existing either. So get out there, improve yourself, socialize, and actually try. 2
carhill Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Why are women so picky? Generally, because men allow and validate such behaviors. 4
MrCastle Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 In my experience, men are more picky from a physical standpoint. I know people on here make it seem (unfortunately, sometimes women themselves) like if you're short or skinny you're sentenced to infinite virginity, but that's honestly not been my experience. I've wooed chicks who have openly admitted to me they really dig tall guys. I'm a firm believer that if you got the goods. The intangibles, the charm, etc, you have a puncher's chance. I'm sure when most women think of their dream guy, they're not imagining a 5'7 guy who weighs 145 lbs, but here I am. I have not struggled creating chemistry. 6
Phoe Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I personally am not very picky at all!! I have only been asked out a handful of times, and the only time I rejected a guy it was because I already was in a relationship, had nothing to do with the guy himself. On my end, however, every guy I ever pursued rejected me. I've found men to be very picky. I've been called too skinny, I've been called fat, Hair not long enough, lips too small, nose too big... all kinds of ridiculousness. So basically what I am getting at, is that there are reasonable AND unreasonable people from both sexes. Both sides have people who have ridiculous requirements.
Green Light Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 A woman's message that I read the other day on another forum got my theorizing why women are so picky now. She said "I don't want to settle for anything less than other women settle for." Now think about that for a moment. Number one, every relationship is about settling because we are all humans and we all have MANY faults. But I think that what is happening is that women have this sort of feedback loop thing going and they are settling for less and less to the point where they are only looking at a very small population of men who meet these "standards." Then they seem to get upset because they can't find "good" men. I think they have moved the definition of "good" a bit too far. Using this woman's logic, it's like woman are looking over other women's shoulders and thinking "what is she addling to her list of requirements this week." And it seems like the requirements just keep piling on. So I'm beginning to wonder if women's pickiness has more to do with what other women may think than actually what they the, the woman, wants. Just a theory... 1
Casablanca Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Men have one demand, be skinny, if she isn't skinny she can lose weight. Umm, I have a lot more than just the standard of being attractive. Needs to be smart, able to joke on me, have goals, not more than one or two tattoos (none preferably), no kids, not a vegetarian, not too clingy, and able to hold a conversation
aed Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Men have one demand, be skinny, if she isn't skinny she can lose weight. Women have more demands than I could possibly know, here are some. Be very attractive OR have friends. Don't be bald. Don't be short. Getting friends is not 100% impossible, but hard if you are socially handicapped. Like having obesity genes. But being short or bald can not be helped. Why are women so picky? No wonder they get married late now, cause they where looking for mr Perfect. Like some of the people here say: it's because women will always have more options. They are the selectors for mating, not men. But the problem that women are not the problem. Men are! We keep accepting the negative features of some women their behavour, because they are women. Post-60s men have bin thought to put women on a pedelstal. When we look at them just as women, and most importend value or own needs, desires and standards equal to them and follow more or agenda's. Things will become intirely different. We men need to be proud again to men and also embrace or masculine traits and not hide them. Like most men do! 3
Leigh 87 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I can get hot men, men with a 6 pack and all that sh*t. I do not see the big deal. Whatever. I can also get men like that who are genuinely interested in me, as a dating and long term prospect. I do not consider it imperative to go for the hottest guy in the room. I do have no sense of urgency to go for the guy who is the loudest or most outgoing guy, who is charismatic and gets everyone to like him. Instead, the traits I need are: they make me laugh, are generous and kind, and are adventerous somewhat and are very interested in seeing the world someday. I merely have to be able to sleep with them without gagging, physically speaking! I mean - if they are great guys and they are not repulsive to me, I will give them a chance and once I get feelings for them, I view them as SUPER hot. They merely have to be AVERAGE looking for me to NOT rule them out... As long as a guy is average looking, he does not need to be super smart, super successfull, or super "hot" for me to go for him. I just want a nice guy, generous, caring towards me, who is at least average looking to begin with, and who makes me laugh; and is not averse to travelling overseas. Seriously - the mistake most women make is: they hold out for a guy who is not only wonderful to them, but who is also very attractive... Really though: they merely need to not be repulsed by him. Because once they seriously like him, it IS possible to get super strong feelings and fall in love with a guy who was merely "average". 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Why are women so picky? No wonder they get married late now, cause they where looking for mr Perfect. It's not about men vs. women. It's about the haves and have nots. Yes, there are a lot more men in the have not position than women, but still there are some women in the have not position. If you're a have not, it sucks to be you. That's about it. If someone can choose the absolute best they can get, why would they choose any less?
runningfar Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Men have one demand, be skinny, if she isn't skinny she can lose weight. Women have more demands than I could possibly know, here are some. Be very attractive OR have friends. Don't be bald. Don't be short. Getting friends is not 100% impossible, but hard if you are socially handicapped. Like having obesity genes. But being short or bald can not be helped. Why are women so picky? No wonder they get married late now, cause they where looking for mr Perfect. I'm not skinny and I have requirements and I have/had no trouble meeting who I want to be with and engaging in relationships with those who met those requirements. SO, why should I not?
charlietheginger Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I can get hot men, men with a 6 pack and all that sh*t. I do not see the big deal. Whatever. I can also get men like that who are genuinely interested in me, as a dating and long term prospect. I do not consider it imperative to go for the hottest guy in the room. I do have no sense of urgency to go for the guy who is the loudest or most outgoing guy, who is charismatic and gets everyone to like him. Instead, the traits I need are: they make me laugh, are generous and kind, and are adventerous somewhat and are very interested in seeing the world someday. I merely have to be able to sleep with them without gagging, physically speaking! I mean - if they are great guys and they are not repulsive to me, I will give them a chance and once I get feelings for them, I view them as SUPER hot. They merely have to be AVERAGE looking for me to NOT rule them out... As long as a guy is average looking, he does not need to be super smart, super successfull, or super "hot" for me to go for him. I just want a nice guy, generous, caring towards me, who is at least average looking to begin with, and who makes me laugh; and is not averse to travelling overseas. Seriously - the mistake most women make is: they hold out for a guy who is not only wonderful to them, but who is also very attractive... Really though: they merely need to not be repulsed by him. Because once they seriously like him, it IS possible to get super strong feelings and fall in love with a guy who was merely "average". How old are you? Are you married?
Violet11 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Women get married later because they're busy doing other things. Many women are looking for something more than just a certain look or body type in a guy, they're looking for someone genuine...looks may get attention at first but it's the substance that keeps them interested. Maybe you're being picky or looking for the wrong thing in women. 1
xxoo Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Men need it more, so they are less picky. Women don't have such a need for someone, anyone.
truth_seeker Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Women are picky because men in 2013 have dirt low standards. Its not that rare to see an attractive guy with an ugly or bitchy girlfriend (sometimes she is both). When a stuck up, chipmunk faced, 5 in looks chick can get attention for a better looking guy.. she starts to think she is all that. Look at the toxic waste on dating sites who get 50 messages a day from men. So these low quality women delude themselves into thinking they are a "catch" until they hit 35 and find themselves still single and staring into the cold eyes of their 20 cats. Harsh but very true and hilarious! 1
kaylan Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Most men being horny un-picky sex fiends allows women to be picky. Lord knows I was picky in college when 65% of the student population was female. When you have the opposite sex making it rather easy for you to get a date, you can take your pick. 1
D-Lish Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I am definitely picky when it comes to getting involved with a man. I am also in a good place in my life, and I feel happy about where I'm at. I'd like to meet someone I am compatible with, but I'm also okay if that doesn't happen. When you don't feel desperate, you won't settle for douchebags. 1
ThaWholigan Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Most men being horny un-picky sex fiends allows women to be picky. Lord knows I was picky in college when 65% of the student population was female. When you have the opposite sex making it rather easy for you to get a date, you can take your pick. This all day.
IT Geek Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Women get married later because they're busy doing other things. Many women are looking for something more than just a certain look or body type in a guy, they're looking for someone genuine...looks may get attention at first but it's the substance that keeps them interested. Maybe you're being picky or looking for the wrong thing in women. Maybe so, but looks and body type are primary criteria.
IT Geek Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 They merely have to be AVERAGE looking for me to NOT rule them out... As long as a guy is average looking, he does not need to be super smart, super successful, or super "hot" for me to go for him. I just want a nice guy, generous, caring towards me, who is at least average looking to begin with, and who makes me laugh; and is not averse to traveling overseas. From what I've seen with friends this is how most women think. However, those of us that are below average get ruled out immediately. That's why we have to have lower standards and "settle" or be alone. As I've said in other threads, I'd rather be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong (settling). I've pretty much accepted that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life.
Wesker Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Women are picky because men in 2013 have dirt low standards. Its not that rare to see an attractive guy with an ugly or bitchy girlfriend (sometimes she is both). When a stuck up, chipmunk faced, 5 in looks chick can get attention for a better looking guy.. she starts to think she is all that. Look at the toxic waste on dating sites who get 50 messages a day from men. So these low quality women delude themselves into thinking they are a "catch" until they hit 35 and find themselves still single and staring into the cold eyes of their 20 cats. That is so true. I even put that theory to test by making a below average profile on Plenty of Creeps....errr.... POF, with a below average looking picture of a chick. Within minutes of posting I had about 20 messages. All from dudes that seemed like total sleeze balls from their profiles. No wonder OLD is such a joke. Women get some many messages, that even a decent written one gets passed on. Maybe that's why I'm like 1 for 50 in the past year for my messages.
bolase Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 You guys are all clueless. Women are picky because for them the investment in a biological sense (going through with a pregnancy) is way bigger than what guy has to invest. So they should damn well spend longer and have more stringent guidelines in choosing a mate. That's actually why...a few thousands years of culture hasn't changed that! Yes yes women use contraception now...but there is still a much greater investment should you concieve through having sex. He could leave, you are left with something to spend resources on for hte rest of your life - women don't generally abandon their babies, but many men abandon theirs (to this day). It makes perfect sense to me that women are pickier.
D-Lish Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 We live in a society where women now have an opportunity to be discerning- a right that wasn't considered in the past, and still isn't considered in some third world cultures. Obviously I am thankful to have a choice regarding whom I have sex with. If I lived in India, I would never invest in a bus pass. 1
Sugarkane Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Women are picky because we're the ones that get pregnant. You don't carry a child for 9 months and give birth. You don't get stuck with a kid and The enormous responsiblity and cost that goes with it.
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