xxoo Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 In the end, both men and women are shoping untill the old age / biological clock bell starts ringing or we find that great deal and end it early. After the bell rings we get the best possible deal we can or we refuse to do that and get a bunch of cats. Ah, the cats. Ask some people in love. The best deal isn't always the best looking or the wealthiest. When you feel it, there is no denying it. It seems that people in major metro areas are doing more "shopping" than "connecting"--and not just the men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 I am really offended at the cats argument. My cat brought so much joy into my life 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Bristolius Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Ah, the cats. Ask some people in love. The best deal isn't always the best looking or the wealthiest. When you feel it, there is no denying it. It seems that people in major metro areas are doing more "shopping" than "connecting"--and not just the men. Yes. It seems that people keep trying to find a relationship instead of trying to create one. Also, I'd say that good looking people tend to pair off. I don't get why the good looking women in this thread are so pessimistic. Good looking women really do find good looking men to commit to them. It happens every day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Goldenbrwn Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 To answer the OP's question I think the reason is the majority of women have schewed standards for men. There was a study done that found that women rated 80% of men as below average. Your Looks and Your Inbox « OkTrends Link to post Share on other sites
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It's women's standards that's much higher than men's to be honest. 85% of women are only attracted to and go for 15% of the men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 You should just be thinking, screw them, rather than changing yourself on such a fundamental level. I can guarantee, I'm not changing myself. My feeling is though that you just need to relax and let it happen. Lol, that's what I have been doing. Usually when i reach the point of saying f-it I'm done for a while, that's when I meet someone new. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It seems that people in major metro areas are doing more "shopping" than "connecting"--and not just the men. More options, less need to overtly compromise/settle. Both sides of the coin bring their own problems. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 First of all location ... Washington is probably the only place in the US that is more shallow than NY, since you have so many politicians, leaders, lobbyists and journalists who actually pretend like they are checking up on the politicians and lobbyists. That, and we have a bunch of people who think they're saving the world from an office on K Street. Plus, the wannabe "Masters of the Universe" types... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It's women's standards that's much higher than men's to be honest. 85% of women are only attracted to and go for 15% of the men. Face it ladies, there aren't enough handsome guys to go around. Women have makeup, hairstyling/coloring, style to bump them up a notch or two. Regular guys aren't going to be into style and all that but a player type might. So in conclusion, I hope you gals can learn to share or just be happy alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 or just be happy alone. Reading the posts by a large group of men on this thread yes this is the conclusion I'm drawing too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 what can I say, I'll put on my high heels and short dress, buy myself three Dalmatians and make sure I regularly keep the cocktail sessions with my gfs, to make my pain go away more easily : D 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Regular guys aren't going to be into style and all that but a player type might. Maybe regular guys should up their game a little. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Maybe regular guys should up their game a little. It wouldn't matter. Some girls are going to refuse the hamburger because they can't have the steak. Well, maybe there are only 3 steaks and 60 hungry stomachs. IME these girls are single well into their 30s and beyond... and suddenly they realize there aren't even any hamburgers on offer any more. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It wouldn't matter. Some girls are going to refuse the hamburger because they can't have the steak. It doesn't matter if your hamburger or stake, if you over cook it and screw up the presentation, no one's going to eat it. Also the defeatist attitude isn't really appealing to most women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It wouldn't matter. Some girls are going to refuse the hamburger because they can't have the steak. Well, maybe there are only 3 steaks and 60 hungry stomachs. IME these girls are single well into their 30s and beyond... and suddenly they realize there aren't even any hamburgers on offer any more. There are certainly men and women like these. The difference is that for men, time is more forgiving than for women [if there is a want for a family]. They go through the department store of life shopping for men, always putting it off untill they get to the next floor, untill the offers are gone and they somehow end up on the last floor or on the roof with not that many options. Like i said, time is more forgiving with men than it is with women. Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It doesn't matter if your hamburger or stake, if you over cook it and screw up the presentation, no one's going to eat it. Also the defeatist attitude isn't really appealing to most women. What defeatist attitude? I'm not worried about these gals, I know that not all women are like that. I know plenty of girls that are happily married to guys that are let's just say average to below in the looks department. But they are solid and were willing to commit. Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It wouldn't matter. Some girls are going to refuse the hamburger because they can't have the steak. Well, maybe there are only 3 steaks and 60 hungry stomachs. IME these girls are single well into their 30s and beyond... and suddenly they realize there aren't even any hamburgers on offer any more. Guys do that too. Deep down I think these people aren't just picky but have personal problems that prevent them from being with anyone, or make it so that they can only be with a specific personality type. Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Most people with borderline and histronic personality disorders are never single. They are usually incapable of being alone and jump from one disastrous relationship to another. Just sayin' It wouldn't matter. Some girls are going to refuse the hamburger because they can't have the steak. Well, maybe there are only 3 steaks and 60 hungry stomachs. IME these girls are single well into their 30s and beyond... and suddenly they realize there aren't even any hamburgers on offer any more. Hamburgers are always on the offer. You can always find someone if you have little or no standard. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 I know plenty of girls that are happily married to guys that are let's just say average to below in the looks department. But they are solid and were willing to commit. Why is it every time this subject comes up, it's always presented as an 'OR' option. it's always stated on LS person A should be happy with dating/marring person B because person B is, Attractive, or is nice, or willing to commit, or well off career wise, or some other reason. Honestly, who wants to be with someone who is sub-par? Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Why is it every time this subject comes up, it's always presented as an 'OR' option. it's always stated on LS person A should be happy with dating/marring person B because person B is, Attractive, or is nice, or willing to commit, or well off career wise, or some other reason. Honestly, who wants to be with someone who is sub-par? An old proverb: There is only one most beautiful child in the world, and every mother has it. No one is in love with anyone sub-par. If you are in love, you don't see them as sub-par! Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 No one is in love with anyone sub-par. If you are in love, you don't see them as sub-par! That's not what I meant, what I mean is seems to be a general held belief on LS that meeting a single criteria (sub-par) should be good enough. That's why I have very little pity for the bitter brigade. Instead of seeing it as a motivation to improve themselves, they just gripe they can't get a woman in their league....... Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 That's not what I meant, what I mean is seems to be a general held belief on LS that meeting a single criteria (sub-par) should be good enough. That's why I have very little pity for the bitter brigade. Instead of seeing it as a motivation to improve themselves, they just gripe they can't get a woman in their league....... It's about priorities more than anything... if you can't have it ALL (and who realistically can??) then what qualities do you put first? Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It's about priorities more than anything... if you can't have it ALL (and who realistically can??) then what qualities do you put first? Yea it's about priorities, but the problem is, you cant' control someone else's priorities. lets take make up Marry, and doesn't exist Dave. Marry's priorities are: 1. guy must be nice 2. guy must be financially stable 3. guy must be attractive to her 4. guy must want kids 5. guy must be something else 6. guy must be yet something else. Dave's priories are: 1. girl must be nice 2. girl must be attractive to him 3. girl must be fun 4. girl must be something else 5. girl must be yet something else. Marry requires 1-4, while Dave only requires 1-3 99 Times out of 100, the gripes and endless debates on LS are because Dave feels, Marry's requirements are wrong. And the only reason he even cares is because she meets all of his requirements. Now Dave is butt hurt, and starts making threads with tittles like: 1. women should settle when young, because after they are x years old no man will want them 2. women only go for the top 20% of guys 3. women only like rich guys 4. ...... Link to post Share on other sites
richwhiteman Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 ok, not here to pick on white women. but I am curious ti know, are their dating standards way too high. Currently, only 52.5% are married and about 50% of all their first marriages end. I am white men and I want ti date a high income white woman that has at least a bachelors degree, make 75,000 or more a year, can afford to pay her own rent and bills, have manageable debt, enjoy eating out and going places, have a decent body physique, hot, sexy, attractive, work out and exercise, eat healthy and take supplements, vitamins, herbs, have colored hair and well cut or kep, nice make-up, can wear eye-glasses or shades, and like strong perfume. All this does involve money but white women seems to not be happy when their men make way more money than them it way below. he must be in the same range. even when a man meets their standards, they still find a reason to end the relationship early for a variety of reasons including family, friends, past relationship failures, or desire to gain more freedom. I want to know, what is the white women dating standards. if you went on a FIRST DATE WITH A WHITE WOMAN, what should you expect, behave, and do so. even if she can't offer what asking for, she still wants so much Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 I want ti date a high income white woman that has at least a bachelors degree, make 75,000 or more a year, can afford to pay her own rent and bills, have manageable debt, enjoy eating out and going places, have a decent body physique, hot, sexy, attractive, work out and exercise, eat healthy and take supplements, vitamins, herbs, have colored hair and well cut or kep, nice make-up, can wear eye-glasses or shades, and like strong perfume. I'm confused. And OUR standards are high? This list is pretty ridiculous. Link to post Share on other sites
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