and separated for 2 months

[lovestruk]

Hi people,

 

I have been married for 3 years and now separated for 2 months.

My husband is very proud of his achievements as a professional,

as none of his family members are as educated. my family on the

other hand has all educated people doing well for themselves.

My husband has a great inferiority complex. Due to this he has

maintained an upper hand in our marriage. his way or the high way.

in the last 3 years, i didn't get any emotional support from him.

he often says that 'i married you coz u r independent'. He doesn't

want to take any sort of ownership of me as a wife/family. We used

to have a lot of fights but he always proved that 'i proved him', that's

why he behaved like that. I used to give in and apologies to get back

things to normal, hoping that he will understand even though he might

doesn't say the word 'sorry'. Didn't see any change/guilt in him even

after i took full responsibility of all fights. later, when i decided to not

give in, fights started becoming ugly. He used call up my parents to

threaten me at odd hours at night! He doesn't listen to anybody in his family,

doesn't respect my family/friends.

 

We decided to stay separately, he wasn't looking for a place for about 2 weeks

even after we decided. One day, i found condoms in his bag, he threw such a

tantrum that night that started feeling unsafe in the house with him. Next day i

asked him to leave the house. He has been holding me responsible for throwing

me out of the house. And says that he will not reconcile and asks me to file a divorce.

he has denied to give me share in a house that we own. He doesn't try to talk to me or

anything, even when i tried to talk to him, he pushed me back. I don't want to go back to

him but would like to have a final word with him before filing the divorce. How can

somebody be so full of himself! Doe he never think that he could be wrong? He often

told me that he loved me even after we separated. why doesn't he make an attempt to

make it work.? Can someone help me out here? i am quiet confused.

[BetrayedH]

I'm stuck on the "condoms in his bag" part.