Boobs Affecting My Life

[tinkstwin]

I am 18 years old and I feel doomed. You guys are probably going to think, oh big deal, get over it but I cant. I am flat chested. My left boob seems somewhat noticeable (like at the very first stage of growing) but barely. My right boobs is pratically as flat as a little boy. I cant even wear push up bras. There is absoluly nothing to push up. My mom had boobs when she was my age. Its affecting my life to the point where I can't stay in a relationship. When the relationship gets to the "sexual point" I brake it off because I will not let a guy see, or feel my boobs. I will not go to the beach anymore either. Im beginning to think there is no hope for my boobs growing. Is there something wrong with me? But basically my main question is, do you have to have a lot of money to get breast implants? Does insurance cover them? I feel as if this is my only option. I want to be happy. My insecurities are eating away my social life and making me depressed. Am I going to have to suffer untill I get a good paying job as a medical assistant?

[moimeme]

Is there something wrong with me?

 

Yes. You have been brainwashed to believe that all men want big humungous bazongas. It's not at all true. Do you know there are porn websites dedicated exclusively to 'tiny tatas'? Few men are so shallow that they will not want a relationship with you because you don't possess a couple pounds of fat and tissue on each side of your chest.

 

Quit obsessing over this, let fellows show you how much they care about you. You'll soon learn that a real man will love the person, not the accoutrements attached to the person.

[tinkstwin]

No no no. I dont want huge boobs, not at all. I just want boobs. Like b. I would probably even be happy with an a cup. If I fit into an a bra I would probably be happy enough. I just want it for myself, u know? Like wouldn't guys hate it if they didnt have a penis?

[moimeme]

You're not that old. You have years yet to develop. Are you the right weight for your height or do you try to stay thin? Are your menstrual cycles ok? What are the body types in your family? My mom's side is all buxom but also they all tended to overweight whereas my dad's side has lean and even thin people in it with not-huge bosoms.

 

If there's nothing medically wrong with you, then give it some time. Take it from a former double-A who's now a happy B However, when I was on my way to A, I found appreciation so don't stress about this. It still should not affect your relationships.

 

Like wouldn't guys hate it if they didnt have a penis?

 

The difference between penis and boobs is that they need a penis to have sex and you do not. Now, if you had no vagina, you would have a problem but you don't. If you enjoy stimulation, then you're ahead of some people who have ample bosoms but actually don't feel much stimulation from them.

[tokyo]

Calista Flockhart, the female lead in "Ally McBeal" also doesn´t

have a lot, but she looks really cute. I have a friend and he tells

me he´d rather have a girlfriend with a cute face than with a

perfect body. Being sexy includes more than having big breasts, it´s

how you walk, how you talk and what you say, there are so many

things that will make you attractive to guys. I do think that there clothes

in which slim women will just look better than women who are better

equipped. You just have to try it out. Yes, I know, it´s always

easier to talk about things if you are not personally involved,

but try it. Be cool

[Mr Spock]

Your body is your own, and you have the right to do with it as you choose. Some women don't develop until much later on. You can finance a BA.

 

I would suggest talking to a doctor, who can determine if indeed your breast tissue has atrophied and won't develop any further.

 

It is normal for one breast to be larger than the other, up to half a cup size-but if one is very much larger it is correctable.

 

Breast Implants won't make you a different person-so if you don't like who you are, they're not the answer.

[sillysally]

I think a boob job is anywhere from 5 to 10 grand, and no insurance does not cover. One option is to charge it or finance it, many places do this. I am 33 and am an A cup, so I've thought of this many times, but always decided against it. But really do your research on the procedure and on the doctors, I cannot stress that enough. There are some risks.....and think about it long and hard. Boobs do not make the woman.

[blue17]

i don't really care about a woman's breast size. Granted...if I had to choose I would select bigger over smaller, but it's no big deal either way. There are some guys who really look for a big chest on a girl...but a lot would take a nice overall body instead. (and especially a cute face and nice long hair).

 

I MUCH prefer a flat stomach, well toned body and a nice a** then big boobs. They are so overrated.

 

If you are ashamed if your breast size, and you are really skinny, maybe you could add a few pounds? As long as you stay in good shape tho, that's a lot more important.

[evergreatful]

tinkstwin I don't know whats it like to be a women in todays body image obsessed society so I wish I could help more. But I can tell you this... As what I like to see as a normal 21 year old male, I do not find large breasts very attractive at all, they sag and get discusting. I have been in two serious relationships and both had a small bust (1 AA, 1 A). I am very attracted to that. But in the end it doesn't really matter at all. I'm sure you are very smart and very pretty girl. I agree with everyone else, maybe try and put on some weight to see if that helps. I know my last girlfriend did this and there was a noticible difference...from AA to A. As you get older I'm sure you'll see that people aren't as shallow as they seem. And for the beach...don't stop going. The beach is great. There are thousands of small busted women at the beach. Good luck. You know you have everyone on this board.

[Papillon]

For me, the smaller the better.... as moimeme says, your self-esteem haven't been made in the image of yourself, but in the image of others.

[zara]

Hey Tink - you are way too young for surgery yet. At 18 you have three or four years left to grow, and whilst some surgeons would operate on you now any good surgeon would say wait a few years.

 

If you want them for you then go ahead. I certainly got mine for me, so that i finally matched on the outside the way i looked in my head. I've always behaved as though i have boobs - i've got an hour glass figure, flat stomach, long hair and a penchant for high heels, i used to wear padded bras and still exuded confidence (some would say too much!) - but i tired of my boobs disappearing when i took the bra off and decided to get real ones.

 

It did my love life NO GOOD whatsoever though. My BF of three years hated them and wouldn't take me out in public after i had them and i have had one failed relationship since and currently feel as though i am going to be alone for the rest of my life. But hell, at least i will be a spinster with great boobs (implants, if looked after, won't sag like normal boobs)!

 

Also, there are clothes that i can't wear now i have boobs, like cardigans and some shirts because they won't fit over my chest - although i am an E cup, if you only want a B you shouldn't have that problem!

 

Anyway, i guess i am trying to point out that a boobjob won't transform your life and make it all wonderful. And there are lots of potential risks - capsular contraction, scarring, bottoming out, uniboob, having to have repeat surgery to name but a few. Also, remember that your boobs mature when you have children - i know people who didn't have any until they got pregnant and then that was it! Take the next few years to think carefully and you could start a saving fund. If you decide you don't need/ want them after the age of 21 then you vcan use the money to treat yourself to a wonderful holiday or something!

[littleflowerpot]

funny how we always seem to want the opposite of what we have. i am busty and have always wished i was smaller.

 

however, my boobs are not flabby and disgusting for whoever the guy was that said big boobs are disgusting.

[flannelpajamas]

If you have considered all the pros and cons and have educated yourself and find that you want implants, more power to you. I would agree with all the women who say you might want to wait a little bit longer though. At 18 I was an A cup and then zoom, at 20 all of a sudden I was a C cup, with no body weight gain. You are still developing so you might want to wait.

Good luck and I hope you take the time to feel good about yourself and your body no matter what size boobs you have.

[BlueRaincoat]

Originally posted by tinkstwin

No no no. I dont want huge boobs, not at all. I just want boobs. Like b. I would probably even be happy with an a cup. If I fit into an a bra I would probably be happy enough. I just want it for myself, u know? Like wouldn't guys hate it if they didnt have a penis?

 

I know how you feel. I'm 22 years old and barely have and A cup. It wouldn't bother me so much if I also had no hips, but the rest of my body is nice and curvy. I just want the top to match the bottom.

 

I plan on waiting until I'm at least 25 years old to get implants, and I'm not getting anything over a C cup. Anything more would look incredibly tacky on my body.

 

I know that it's much better to wait until you have children first, but I don't especially want any. If for some reason I do one day, I'm going to either adopt or become a foster parent. It just seems selfish to have kids of my own when there are so many out there in need of loving parents.

[Karlise13]

I think small boobs are the GREATEST!

 

I was a B cup all through high school. Then in my twenties, I became a C. I am pretty small (a size 4-6) and I feel like my chest is really out of proportion.

 

I can't stand it. My boobs sweat in the summer. I can't wear cute little halters or tops without a strapless (and those SUCK.....they always slip and show)

 

They are starting to sag. I'd love to pay for a breast lift and reduction. But that's expensive and painful and will leave scars. Maybe in five years I'll do it.

 

My BF is happy with them....

 

but I'd love the freedom of tiny boobs

[Charlotte]

Hi tinkstwin ,

I know exactly how you feel. I was flat as a board - AAA- AAAA and believed I was deformed. There were guys that were interested in me and I liked them but I would never get close to them because I feared the intimacy and what they would think when they saw me naked. I felt so ashamed of my body.

 

I thought about surgery for long long time and in the meantime, saved my money. After 10 years of thinking, I got them done. I also did not want to be huge - just normal. So now I am a B cup and am very happy. For me, its been a positive experience so far. My self confidence is much higher. I feel like a normal girl - can wear a bra now!!

 

However, having surgery is a decision not to be taken lightly. There are serious risks involved. Things can go wrong and if you are not mature enough to handle it (or don't have the support behind you), then it could make you feel even worse and possibly lead you into depression. Make sure you do lots of research and are prepared for possible complications and multiple operations in the future if you decide to have implants.

 

So to answer some of your questions-:

"Is there something wrong with me?" - No. Many girls out there are flat or have uneven boobs.

"Do you have to have a lot of money to get breast implants" Yes. Although you can borrow but I wouldn't recommend it. You should save at least double the amount of money you would need (Not sure how much it costs in US). This is to cover revision operation or other possible medical expenses in case of problems.

 

"..Only Option" Not really. You could learn to live with it - I know other flat girls do. Some just wear padded bras.

 

"I want to be happy". Yes we all do,but surgery, regardless if it is successful or not, cannot guarantee that happiness. While the surgery has help lift my confidence, there still a part of me that is in conflict because I know they are not natural.

[poeticmistere]

Hun don't worry this is not a problem a guy like me doesn't care about how big your tits are it's about your heart brain and personality looks are just like a side dish and heart personality is the main dish don't worry about that stuff it's not important seriously and don't even think about getting a boob surgery trust me it aint worth it. Guys will think oh **** she fake nasty fake boobs better natural trust me.

[gypsymoth]

I thought the same thing about my breasts, so I had breast augmentation. I've had nothing but problems. Capsular contraction, one bottomed out. If you think the cost of the procedure is the end-all, think again!

Now I have to undergo revision surgery and it's quite painful in the meantime.

If you really want it, save up - you could easily be looking at 10 grand or more.

Best of luck to you.

[turk64021]

I personly like women with a small body and a flat chest. I like the nipples to be a bit puffy or raised. more than a A cup is a waste. My sister in law was a stripper for a couple of years and she was a 32 aa and that was pushing it. Most of the time she didn't where a bra just a tank top, or half shirt and ever time she came around she really flaunted her little tiny body and bent over showing me her little raised nipples. I couldn't help it but I have always wished I would of married her instead. I have had girlfriends with all breast sizes b c d dd and I would pick the smaller to flat chest anyday. Plus one thing is if you are controlling your diet and keeping yourself skinny you will never grow a chest, try gaining about 10 to 20 pounds I bet you will see some enlargement, thats what my sister-in-law did and she is pushing a b cup now after 10 years of being flat. She went from 102 lbs at 18 to 130 at 28 she thinks she is fat now but she likes her titties now. I would hate to hear that your going to even consider inplants considering that it could lead to cancer or other problems, illness. If you have to have implants removed it makes your chest deformed and smaller in some cases concaved. Thanks for reading, and remember if a guy don't like them he can move on. Love Yourself for who you are and not for who your trying to impress.

[Auz]

In a perfect world, I'd post you my man-boobs and we'd both be happy:)

[jacquelyn]

Wow. it's quite amazing how many of you like small tities. i'm a 32A myself and i have been considering breast implants for sooo long. i have also wrote a 5 page report on breast implants and breast lifts. it's actually extremely dangerous because there are so many side effects and how they can go wrong. also, you would have to renew the silicon every 10 years or so. those are the only reasons why i still haven't gotten my implants yet. hehe. i'm 20 and my bf said he loves my boobs cuz they're squishy. i've heard from so many people that once you get breast implants, they're not even "squishy" anymore. they're just really hard and "yuckie." if i were to ever get it, i wouldn't get anything larger than a B cup. i also agree with the other person who said you should be happy with what god has given you. and i know how you feel. it's kinda hard to feel womanly when you're boobs are almost flat. i'm just saying that based on how i feel. try going to victoria secret and get the very sexy push up bra. it actually gives me some clevage. if you ever decide on getting the implants, tell me how it went! good luck to you.

[sweetey147]

I am currently in a 36 D and I can still wear the halter tops, strapless and everything i wish to but my boobs are no way disgusting and flabby because i do work out and they are still nice and perky....the guys here seem to like it and I love my boobs, i am happy the way i am.. I feel i was made this way so why not be happy.

 

Just be happy with what ya got girl....like was said earlier there are lots that love tiny tits so make the best of them!

[flat chested]

I am 21 yrs old now and swear i have been the same saize since I was 15. I am barely a 32 A. I really dont fit into any bra because i really dont have any breasts. It's been hard for me b/c my flat chest has given me a poor body image. I have had alot of guys interested in me, but i cannot seem to let myself get sexually involved with someone b/c i am embarrassed about being flat chested. I always tell me friends that i am boyfriendless by choice. To tell them the real reason seems really pathetic. I can't show anyone my breasts. the only person i feel comfortable seeing them is my older sister. i have felt for the longest time that to me ... my breasts are like my deformity .. and it sucks! I am just waiting for the day for me to afford my breast implants so I can then try to live a normal life and feel better about my body.

[New_Wife]

Isn't it scary how these two appendages can so affect us? I got mine very very young (think single digits) and they were HUGE. Not huge like, oh, D or DD, but HUGE. On a 90 lb little girl. I was teased so bad, felt like such a freak, and often pulled on pushed at or pinched by other kids. By the time I was in my teens I nearly had a humped back from trying to hide them so much.

 

Fast forward many years, and they're even bigger after having some kids, piont straight down at the floor, pull my shoulders out of whack with the stupid bra I have to wear (one step below a construction winch, really), and make it uncomfortable to run, play sports, or lie down in much of any position.

 

I AM getting a reduction before the year is out, and mine will be considered medical due to the neck, back and shoulder strain.

 

Even though the problem is opposite, the pain of feeling like a freak is the same. I can completely understand how being so obviously different can wreak havok on your self esteem - especially if you've grown up hearing about it. Sticks and stones may break bones, but names can tear the crap out of a person's soul.

 

The only suggestion I have for you is to take a trusted family member with you for consultations, and follow up on the surgeon's references, etc. If you decide to do this, it IS a surgery and should be undergone after much thought and with respect for risks. If I could donate 1/2 of mine to you, I sure would.

[ribeena]

Seriously thinking sbout getting a boob job?! Dont be so hasty my love! we all have insecurities - me especially! I have small boobs and used to get teased all the time by boys and girls! Boys used to say to me where've ya tits gone or shes got no tits and your boobs are too small! too small for what i ask?! a tit w@nk?! yes - so i cant fit a penis between my breasts but i wouldnt particularly want to! big deal! i can do plenty of other things!

 

In relation to a boob job being your only option - I dont even consider it as an option!

 

You need a vagina for penatrative sex - FACT (no anal puns!). Breasts are secondary - yes men are fascinated by them because the dont posses a pair! your boobs primary function is for feeding babies! every pair of boobs is capable of feeding a baby - size and shape is not an issue!

 

And yeah some guys say they would prefer bigger to smaller but if you asked them why & to think about it really I doubt they would come up with any valid reasons!!! its just about going with the flow! yes big bazoonas are always in the mens mags etc but did you know its more common for women to have small boobs! It just happens to seem like the lastest thing but did you know men used to lust after womens necks? and even ankles?! Its just a big taboo!!

 

small breasts are not an ILLNESS that needs to be treated! Dont run the risk of ruining what you've got, dont get a boob job - honestly, you dont need to change you for anyone!