Wife cheated and had twins from her encounter.

[Balzac]

Frozensprouts is a war chest of info btw.

[nofool4u]

Well im going to make short and sweet. I just recently found out that my wife cheated on me 2 years ago about the same time she got pregnant with twins. We got a DNA test done and i am not the father. We also have a 4 year old daughter together. Im not sure what to do i signed the Birth Certificates of the twins thinking they were mine.

 

Well unfortunately since you signed the certificate, in most cases, the law will treat you as the father and you are responsible for them, no matter if you have the evidence that you are not.

 

 

I want nothing to do with this woman or the twins but my daughter means the world to me. Do i have to pay child support for the twins and would i have a chance to win custody of my daughter in court? Any advice would help. Thanks

My guess is you would have to pay child support for the twins. But you should consult a lawyer and tell him/her that you signed the birth certificate, but only because you didn't know they could have been another man's. Present the lawyer with the DNA test and see what they say. Pay them for a 1 hour consult and they will give you the answer as to what you can expect if you get a divorce.

 

 

Or, one thing you can do is find out who the father is, and give his name and number to said attorney. Make an appointment today!!!

Edited January 16, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[nofool4u]

She said the father got deported for sexual harassment

 

Well then my guess is you will end up having to pay. I'm thinking a court will not want to consider this other scumbag a legal parent and will think of the best interest of the twins, and that would be to keep you as the legal parent.

 

But again, consult an attorney and tell him/her EVERYTHING you can and let them guide you.

Edited January 16, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Deployed]

I'm not sure which country you serve in, but my husband is military ( Canada) and was at KAF ( Khandahar airfield) and quite a few FOBs a few years ago, and you have my sympathies for being in such a nasty place ( I take it the 'poo pond' is still there?)

 

From my own experience when my husband cheated ( his affair ended about six weeks before he was deployed) , it is best not to involved the chain of command, as that can just complicate things...they may try and help, or they may red light you and send you home

 

Can you talk to your unit's padre? Here, if you ask, and as long as it doesn't affect your ability to do your job, they will keep your conversation in confidence ( just make sure you ask first)...and trust me, they have seen it all, heard it all and helped people through some pretty awful situations. they have training in secular counseling ( so don't worry if you're not religious..I'm agnostic)...there were a few who helped me, and I learned a whole bunch a new swear words too:laugh: ( never heard language like that before...both in english, french and russian...one of the padres was a catholic priest from quebec who was born in the former USSR)...

 

here, we also have military family resource centers that are completely separate from the chain of command, and they will help military members and they are not permitted to go to the chain of command unless the member asks them to...you may have soemthing like that in your military, but if not, you can contact one of ours and explain your situation...they have lots of contacts who may be able to help you no matter which country you live in

( here's the link...it's for Canadian military families, but they are usually happy to help anyone who needs it, even if it's only to offer helpful advice and point you in the right direction to people who can help you in your own area...the social worker at an MFRC is a good person to start with...they are great...they've also heard it all before, and you probably aren't the first person they've talked to who's gone through something like this)

 

Military Families Strength Behind the Uniform | La Famille La force conjointe

 

there's also some internet forums specifically for military spouses who are going through similar things to you...they can be really helpful...

 

hope things get better for you soon, and keep your head down and eyes up and come home safe

 

Well im in KAF now because my unit is getting ready to leave and head back to the states. The "poo pond" is still here and its not skipping a beat lol

 

Yes we have military one source and thats a pretty much the same thing, they help military families without getting the chain of command involved.

 

Im not going to let these people know of my situation because im sure they cant help me. From here on out its pretty much up to the courts to decide. I wish i would have signed up to these forums when it first happened it would have helped with the grief but im ok now.

 

Thanks for the info and advice