Author Coping Vortex Posted January 18, 2013 Author Share Posted January 18, 2013 how do you honestly believe she really loves you while she's banging the other dude? She started see the guy to get over our relationship. And she didn't break up with him at that point because we were just reconciling that day. We actually just met to touch base and then moved into a reconciliation. Plus I know she was wary at that point and i wouldn't have expected her to end it with him that day. I think we needed a few days to see if this recon was going to take. It was all moot anyway as she made her decision to stay with him the next day. her new guy is already in love with her and is planning trips etc. and I can tell she is caught up with his efforts to win her over. hard to do when you are the old relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
crashvector Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 Look, while I'd like to say I would do things differently than you, the reality is, I probably wouldn't. I know that if my ex fiance came back asking for a second chance, I'd prob give it to her just so I could answer the most DANGEROUS question on earth: What if? "What if" holds SO many possibilities...some good, some bad, some fantastic, some horrible. You now have your answer to "what if". Time to start to move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 18, 2013 Author Share Posted January 18, 2013 Look, while I'd like to say I would do things differently than you, the reality is, I probably wouldn't. I know that if my ex fiance came back asking for a second chance, I'd prob give it to her just so I could answer the most DANGEROUS question on earth: What if? "What if" holds SO many possibilities...some good, some bad, some fantastic, some horrible. You now have your answer to "what if". Time to start to move on. Crash, good to hear from you again. We have been going through the same thing at the same time. Yes my answer is very depressing because there is no hope. But I also feel somewhat better deep down inside way deep down that I don't have to panic to get her back before its too late. Its like it took some small pressure off me. I know now that woman and that relationship is gone. That being said that doesn't mean I am in anyway over her. Just the opposite it set me back more than I can bear. But I don't have to spend time thinking what I can do to get her back. I can focus on getting over her. I can begin to heal now and mourn the loss. I just can't believe she will settle for the short comings of the new relationship. i have to also admit I'm starting to wish her ill. I know, not nice, but I need to stop putting her in a pedestal. I need to see the bad as well. I need to get mad and remember that she hurt me and caused me pain. That she is not a saint and that she will do something in that new relationship to hurt that guy as well. I know she will. she is not a bad person but just suffers from low self esteem that makes her do things that are bad in a relationship, like flirting maybe cheating etc. Link to post Share on other sites
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