His need for online attention is driving me nuts

[Justagirl7588]

I’m 36 years old I met my boyfriend 6 months ago and we instantly hit it off and he moved in 2 weeks later. Looking back I probably jumped the gun and maybe should have waited.

 

I noticed that he was friending a lot of woman (and girls - very young like 18, hes 42) on Facebook. When I asked him about this he said he is trying to build up his friends for his chef consulting business. I didn't understand why he would want an 18 year old girl from California on there.. But I trusted that he really had a good reason for it...

 

After that I notice he looked at woman...a lot..and the Facebook thing just didn't stop. I do have to admit I was on his case a lot about it..even went through his phone (which I don't do anymore and I know is wrong) and found messages that he sent to a girl he met on a dating website right before he met me saying "hello beautiful" I confronted him and he said its just a term of endearment and she lives in London so there was no chance of anything happening. This still doesn't sit well with me.

 

The second thing I found on his phone was a message to an ex-girlfriend he dated right before me (for 2 months) telling her he "missed hanging out with her". (This is the same woman who was calling him constantly when we first met telling him to break up with me, that she made a mistake. He told me he told her not to call him anymore.) Of course I confronted him and it was a huge blow out. He said I’ve been pushing him away and he needed to reach out. I asked him to stop talking to her and he yelled saying I can’t tell him who I can and can’t talk to. I was hurt that he didn’t understand where I was coming from. She later texted him again telling him her daughter was in an accident. I saw the text and told him I didn’t think it was appropriate to text her back or just say politely that you hope her daughter is ok but she really shouldn’t contact him again. He flipped out and again said he’ll talk to who he wants to and I was selfish for not caring about her daughter. He still didn’t understand.

 

That was 2 months ago. The Facebook thing is still going on and he still insists its none of my business who he is friends with, even though they are half naked woman posing and whatever….Yesterday I just saw a tweet he wrote to a news anchor woman telling her she has beautiful legs.

 

I am really trying to decipher weather or not I am just being overly jealous or if there is a true problem. I know the world won’t end if I end the relationship but I don’t trust my feelings sometimes.

[WhatYouWantToHear]

Yesterday I just saw a tweet he wrote to a news anchor woman telling her she has beautiful legs.

 

If that was the entirety of your post I would have told you to dump this creepy douche. But there was so much more creepi- and douchi- ness. Don't dump him because you think he's looking to cheat. Dump him because he's a creepy douche.

 

Run.

[veggirl]

Your boyfriend is a nasty creep of a man. Why the eff did you let him move in after 2 weeks? Does he not support himself or something? He is a liar and you should kick him out and dump him. Gross. I would never ever be okay with my bf doing ANY of that stuff you listed. What a creep, tweeting a newscaster and adding random 18 yr olds on fb?! not to mention trying to cheat on you with his exes. good lord.