Jenny317 Posted August 22, 2004 Share Posted August 22, 2004 What would you say if I said that my ex-boyfriend wants to date my sister but my sister wants to date him back but is lying to my face, and is having contact with him behind my back? The only reason my Ex isn't going out with me now is because I introduced my sister and my ex and my ex doesn't do nothing but ditch me for her! He don't even call anymore because he has stronger feels for my sister... how should I react and what should I do bc I love them both! Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted August 22, 2004 Share Posted August 22, 2004 At the least, this is an awkward situation. At the most, it's very painful. Your sister should put her relationship with you before that of any new boyfriend. He's not her husband after all -- so she doesn't owe him any allegiance. She should ask you if it's too painful for you for her to see him. You don't give us the history of your relationship with him. If you were only dating casually, she might expect you to say yes. If you were hot and heavy then got your heart broken, she shouldn't even go there. If she's seeing him behind your back, then I suspect she believes this will be painful for you. In which case, she should not be doing it. I think you should confront her. Tell her you believe she's going behind your back. Explain how that makes you feel and what you want for her to set it right. If she doesn't care about your feelings, you don't need to be understanding about this. However, if this isn't a big deal to you because you didn't care much for the guy anyway (and she knows this), then just let her know that you don't appreciate being left in the dark. You deserved the respect of being consulted. Once she's made up for that, you can give them your blessing. -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted August 22, 2004 Share Posted August 22, 2004 I agree with Uriel. I think your sister should act more mature and sensible and see how she is making you feel, be honest to her about this bothering you greatly. Simply ask her how she would feel if you became involved with one of her ex boyfriends. Your ex? He's a a$$, but he's not your relative, so there is not much you're going to be able to do about him. Obviously you can't restrain her from seeing your ex, if she does, keep your distance and try to keep neutral about it as much as you can. It will not be easy to do that. Don't discuss your ex with her, change the subject. If you feel uncomfortable around your ex, don't be around him. You don't have to be give them your blessing, but if they do start dating, try to move on with your life--don't waste your time hating either one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
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